I'm tired of cooking/preparing 3 meals a day. It's just the two of us but boy oh boy can that woman eat!! She stays slimish, I get fattish. It's bad enough I do everything here much less start making her one thing and me the other. At times I feel guilty when I buy her fast food cuz of the nutritional value....not to mention I eat it too.
I hate that expression too. It never made sense to me.
That is truly an awful thing to say to someone. I bet she felt like screaming when she heard that.
She said to me "people keep saying 'look at the bright side...'".
I stopped and told her she has my permission to hit ANYONE who says those words to her.
I live very near my mom. When I visit to help out, I get knots, too. I also noticed I eat a lot of snacks, right before visiting. It’s like I have to numb myself before going there.
I’m thinking of quitting to help. I’ve given years of my life helping (not every day), for an ungrateful, extremely abusive mom.
Hothouse, it’s so hard.
And it just keeps going…unless one totally walks away. I know you’re doing it to help your sisters, otherwise they have to do everything alone.
It’s bad enough giving a huge chunk of one’s time, but getting abused, insulted, while you help?…
My headache finally eased up. I hope you feel better soon too.
(Enter: supercat hero music)
Haha :)
Feel better .
venting . My cat , Daisy, says she wants her own dressing room .
FIL is back at AL today has called 3 times already , DH trying to work from home . He’s losing it. I told him to put his phone upstairs . He has a different cell phone for work anyway . 😭
I am going to take some Tylenol and allergy meds today.
Transitional times are the worst. After everything is settled, you will feel better.
Congrats on making necessary changes.
Yes, it's hard and decidedly NO you are no a failure. Your dad needs more and different care than what can be provided at home. Anyone's home, not just yours.
Big difference in life at home, able to talk, move things around, and plan to get my office above grade to where my plan and it was was years ago. Be able to be warm working this winter and see daylight.
He's doing OK from what he tells me. Sounds like he is slowing down, speech is different.
Big weight on and off of me. One part is good the other one is hard. I was doing fine until I sent the application packet to the home overnight, kind of like a sword in my stomach, I know it has to be done but man it is hard. Partly feel like a failure that I have to do this but I know it's for his best. I'll go from seeing him every day to maybe 2 times a year. As much as I complained it will be hard.
FIL ….I want to be taken out for dinner .
Me …..Sorry I am way too tired to go out .
This is my new truthful answer .
https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=Bx9wi-HgXnM
I said "Maybe you're hallucinating"
She said "I certainly hope not"
That was a funny answer lol.
Low & behold there was a roach in her bathroom. Hahaha
Got a broom and solved the problem. But sheesh what a way to start the morning!!
I was sort of surprised when my friend told me that she going to stay with her son. I wouldn’t have thought that her DIL would want her to live with them.
Years ago, my friend was skeptical about her son marrying his wife. His wife is about 10 years older than her son.
I told her that it’s up to her son to decide who he chooses to spend his life with and it doesn’t matter if she is older or has children from a previous marriage.
My friend did accept her daughter in law when she saw that her son is very happy with his wife. I just hope that this is only a temporary thing because it certainly adds stress to a marriage when a parent moves in.
I speak from my own experience! My husband was supportive of my mom but I am well aware that it was a huge sacrifice for him. I wouldn’t make the same choice if I had to do things over again.
We don’t think about these serious issues when we are young. When situations arise we are blindsided by them.
My thoughts & prayers for all who need them.
God bless 🙏