Other people behaving badly...
When other's are just ticking you off, when you just cannot keep it in any longer, and you have already tried and tried; or you find something so funny but posting it topically would interrupt a conversation; OR you feel like testing your own compassionate quotient by wording it in a way so as NOT to offend;
Instead of logging out, post it here......
Here is an example: Some posts are getting soooo long that no one reads them. Ever. But one day, you find yourself bored out of your mind, and you read, and read, and read. Only to discover that person, a part of the community here, may need help that you cannot give. You want to help, but you are prevented. So, say it all here. Air concerns, but be extremely kind-because everyone you meet is fighting an uphill battle.
Understand?
If it is too long, no one will read it.
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He explained all this in the episode called 'Open Government.' "Always put the difficult bit in the title, it does less damage there."
So, for example, if you come across a document entitled "delivering better health care for all", whereas the casual reader might assume that means a discussion of how the government aims to do so, on careful reading you will find that the document:
avoids definition of "delivering" "better" "health care" and "all"
makes unexplained assumptions about the desiderata of health care, some of them highly arguable
and says that they're already doing it brilliantly and any problems are the result either of unfair perception or unforeseeable setbacks
and says that anyway it's not their job.
"This report examines the Home Office’s progress in managing a clear assurance and oversight system that is effective in identifying risk and financial pressure, uses information on the demand for and cost of police services to inform funding allocations, and supports forces to be financially sustainable by facilitating transformation and enabling forces to make savings."
Daughter 1 remarked last weekend that I am becoming increasingly intolerant. Given that this introductory paragraph *of a public document* has me contemplating driving up to London, chaining up the National Audit Office's entire editorial department and setting fire to their toes, I suppose D1 may have a point.
We have some trees that need trimmed and 1 that needs to be cut down and this man offered to do the whole job for only $300.00,so my dH went for it and decided to go with this man.We thought he'd be back last night,but he never came and again,my dH hoped he'd come this morning,but he didn't.He finally showed up at 1:30 this afternoon and after some chit chat,he told my dH he had to take the woman in his truck somewhere and that he always got half the pay due for his work beforehand.My dH said "Well not from me" and the man left saying he'd be back in a little while.It's been 6 hours now,and he never came back,but it's just as well because I googled him on my computer and the Neighborhood website too and found bad report after bad report on him and his work and how he'd taken money and tools from people and there was also an arrest record and he had been arrested for attempting to steal a car AND I found out that it's a Family business and this junk has been going on for years.
I had a bad gut feeling anyway and now I know why And I think my Mother was trying to send me a sign too,because there was a female Cardinal outside my window chirping Loudly,like it was trying to get my attention.
I'll never understand how people can do such bad things and still continue to live with themselves.It's sad.Really sad.
I got a ticket 1 block from my house too-probably 20 years ago. Bad thing was.....I was stopped dead at the stop sign, no rolling.
Well, I don't mind paying the price when I'm wrong but I'm not about to put up with being accused when I'm innocent. So I argued with the cop and he backed off.
I asked how many seconds do I need to sit there after the tires stop. He couldn't tell me.
I'll be Darned if you're going to meet your quota on me!
⚠️👮🏼😜
Cops still hide here at churches and certain places ready to catch someone,They have to meet their quota....
i nearly chased a car down the street on Labor Day- blew through the corner stop sign going 40+
if I hadn't slowed to greet a neighbor then I would have likely gotten it
only thing that stopped me was that I was already running late
when I was a kid, motorcycle cops would park on certain streets and wait for folks to not come to a complete stop - California roll
I can't remember the last time I've even seen a motor cop, and now when anything happens, every cop car in the city appears on the scene
can an you get the city to put up an extra stop sign before your house ?
Must consider the consequences first, but thanks Sue for the good ideas!
I don't want to make the papers, ya know.
I know it's a long shot but could you petition for speed bumps on your street?
Or "somehow" a 1"X 1" wood pole happens to have fallen right near your driveway?
Can the city put in a speed sensor? They put them in the neighborhood where I work.
Cameras?
Be grateful you don't drive here in TJ. On a 4 lane road going one way, the guy in the left hand lane turns RIGHT across 3 lanes of traffic going straight!!!! I swear they don't care about their lives or any one else's.
And don't get me started with the babies on their mother's laps! Aaaahhhhh!
Oh well, one gets thrown out the window, you can always have another one. Really p*sses me off.
Now, it appears some are speeding and weaving down our main street out front, making it dangerous to turn into our driveway. No where near the streets of L.A. our community is changing!
The majority are BMW drivers. Hot newer cars. Graduates from high school?
Wish I could get my hands on some legal spike strips, but then, that would be a stupid vigilante response to a dangerous threat that the sheriff can handle. But I can dream, can't I? Wishing that I were more powerful to change what's wrong in the world. I think I need a protector, soon.
"The Moon's Effect on Ocean Tides: The gravitational pull of the Moon and the Sun makes the water in the oceans bulge, causing a continuous change between high and low tide. ... While both the Moon and the Sun influence the ocean tides, the Moon plays the biggest role because it is so much closer to our planet than the Sun."
I can imagine that "gravitational pull" might simply affect our body's water balance.
This is surely too simplified, but something happens, for sure at the full moon. imo.
I worked night shift (12mid-8am) for 10 years. I also was on the "Code Team" all those 10 years. Many more violent admissions coming in through ER and the patients on the wards would really act up on a full moon. I'd give more pain medication those nights than other non-moon nights.
And the alcoholics going through the DT's! They would be wild! Leather restraints on wrists and ankles with almost superhuman strength. Oh what fun back in the "good ol' days"!
We would check our schedules, then the calendar
to see if we worked on the full moon.
I also believe the ocean tides have an influence on human behavior (in conjunction with the moon), too.
Annon,
Maybe it was your patient's birthday and he was going out to dinner with Jesus in his 'birthday suit'. 😝
Oh, I know, corny, huh? 🌽
That is exactly what Becky would say whenever we all talk about the full moon!
With the heat, tempers are short.
The full moon (days before) aggressive behaviors in facilities increase. It is a poorly acknowledged, but well known fact.
Do anything necessary to prevent harm and distress to your Mom. Calling the sherriff or police on their non-emergency number, explaining the situation when it starts to escalate can help them be close by ahead of time, then feel free to call or have anyone call 911 when the breakout or violence occurs.
Of course, under the circumstances, you and her caregivers should be prepared to use pepper spray to stop an assault on you or Mom. This all may sound like the nuclear option, but the old days are over and the staff or police won't always be there to protect you from others behaving badly.
You always have the option or risk to make a report to the ombudsman, and/or threatening lawsuit to the admin or DON.
If all else fails, call 911 for Mom, have her taken to the nearest E.R. for chest pains and the palpitations she is having. When paramedics arrive, they will know what to do about the disturbing party. imo. If not, your Mom won't be there.
So sorry you have this stress. Arm yourself with the spray, or do not go to the common areas for awhile.
Scary, I know. Be wise and prepared. Your concerns are real, so do not doubt
yourself.
Is it one resident that's having combative issues many times over, or is it several different ones?
I feel for ya.
Edit: "particular resident" sounds like one person. Hrm.
this seems like such a no win situation for everyone - the family, the resident, the staff, the other residents
no one wants to see anyone taken out on a 72 hour hold but I’ve been tempted twice now to call 911 when I’m visiting mom and staff can’t get a particular resident under control
Actually, I don't remember Mexico ever saying anything about conserving at certain times. They've got this weird system-if you use more than the "minimum" amount, your rate is bumped up and you pay at the higher rate for a YEAR! Very bad if you move into a house and the former tenants had high usage. If you have lowered your usage during the year they will lower it.
Somehow my MIL has the lowest bill I've ever heard of-around $17. for 2 months! But no lights or fans on in her house. The other day, with sweat rolling down my neck, I asked her if the ceiling fan still worked (It's an old house). She said "Yes" and continued with the conversation. 😥
I'm NOT going to try to sleep without my ceiling fan, even if I have to pay more. 😅
I was enjoying posting more easily on this new website. It is working! I thought.
Then, I all of a sudden could not post a "like" this. Kept trying. Oh NO!
Here I was, trying to post "like" on my own post again. Lol.
Only 5 days until a full moon, the heat, it is all getting to me.
My dearest dearest friend turns sixty next month. She is very excited about the party she has organised.
- Aside. The shenanigans from a few months ago seem to have fizzled out. Whether Friend and Other (then) Uninvited Friend sorted it out, or they have jointly and severally stopped caring, I do not know. Fine by me as long as I don't have to hear another word.
Anyway. As the venue for this date, which she entreats us all to attend, Friend has chosen a picturesque old pub on the banks of the Thames. It is a three mile walk - at midday, in July, in party gear - along a towpath from the nearest station. Driving to it on a Sunday lunchtime... I don't want to think about it, much less talk. She warns that the garden looks on to unfenced steep banks over the river, which will be - I quote - "VERY DANGEROUS for small children (or tipsy guests!!!)." Entertainment will be provided by a clown of our acquaintance (a retired professor of sociology, but the clowning was more lucrative) and, I quote again, her "favourite comedy songsters."
I think she is trying to find out whether any of us loves her enough to go.
Please carry jello and applesauce in a small cooler in your car, eat before going to the store. This because you work too hard, too long, and might need to share some with your Mom in an emergency.
Never feel bad for having to say no to a fellow customer.
"In the London suburbs, this isn't a hanging offence. It's a public-whipping-and-then-burning-at-the-stake offence."
Yeah, I agree, he shoulda been whipped publically and then burned at the stake! LOL.
Really am enjoying these confessions CM. Got any more?