I have been in PA since Sept 16th came to visit and dad went to the hospital the next day. Im from Texas. I have a great christian boss and my job is not a issue. Praise God. Im here alone at dads house and visit him almost every day. My husband and sister came for about 10 days and went back to Texas. Dad is in rehab now and weaning off the ventilator and has a lot of physical therapy ahead of him. He is 80. There is not anyone here in PA that can go see him. My brother lives in Ohio and as stated earlier sister lives in Texas. Mom and dad are divorced. I can't stand the thought of leaving dad when knowing there would be no visitors. Or someone to keep up with the standard of care. Not everybody does there job well or enjoy it. I have seen a lot and at times it has been a good thing I was there with dad. I am filled with so many thoughts as to what needs to be done at dads house, and when do I go home. I am depressed and do have anxiety which I am currently taking medication for. When im home i can maintain this with just supplements but stress makes it much worse. The whole situation I find is exhusting and I want to go home badly. I feel there is not any good choice for me, stay or go I feel I will not have any peace of mind.
We were worried how Dad would make the transition. He has done great! It turns out that cooking was becoming stressful for him, but he did not want to say anything. His biggest complaint was that he was lonely. Now, he has lots of friends and activities that are age appropriate.
From my stand point, there is still a lot of support that I need to give. That includes getting him to the doctor, helping with grocery shopping, and the like. However, it is so much easier to do when he is local. Also, the comfort of being able to have a family member stop in 4-5 days a week to just see how he is doing or bring him home for dinner is priceless.
Taking them back to my home in Georgia was not possible.
I would suggest taking him back to your home with you when he is able.
Either to stay with you or in a facility.