5 months ago my sister kicked my mom out of her house. My mom is 69 and moved in with me, my husband my two teens. My whole life has been turned upside down. I’m very depressed, my mother sneaks alcohol, she can be mean, she ALWAYS asks where I’m going. She takes over my tv and if I want to watch something she pouts and tells me it’s stupid. She also pouts and storms to her room and the house feels dark.
I take her everywhere her appointments, stores it’s constant. I can’t have other family members or friends visit she complains about them. I fill out paperwork if she needs something.
I feel like I wish I can move out. I can’t take it anymore. She has made horrible financial decisions in her life and I feel like I’m paying for this now. She was a horrible mother when I was growing up but I’m over that I forgave her. Right now she is with her sister and I call this time my vacation but they will be bringing her back this weekend. I feel so guilty especially since her other daughter wants nothing to do with her. I honestly can’t take this caregiver role, I have two kids that have health issues and need me. My husband needs me. I’m sorry this comment sounds jumbled with run on sentences but she really sets me off and I feel guilty for feeling this way.
Can you call your aunt and see if your mother can stay a bit longer? Your aunt can explain to her that there's a plumbing crisis or something like that.
You and your husband can then use the next few days to find out about alternative options for your mother. If she has no assets to speak of and is low income, then the options will be fairly basic, I expect - but that's not your fault and it's not your problem.
Your mother will still be better off coping as an independent unit, because that way she won't end up estranged from both daughters. Just get the ball rolling.
Good luck!
i know this is beyond hard.