I need to vent....i need to set some boundaries in a big hurry. My mom is consumed with herself and her problems and expects me to dole out sympathy. She suffers from depression and anxiety and the doc cut her dose of clonazapam so she wouldn't have balance problems. Now she's impossible to deal with. All she talks about is how depressed she is and doesnt know what to do. I lost my temper this morning because she brought it up again. I give her advice and she doesnt take it. Uuuugggggggh.
This all reminds me of my childhood role of listening to her rant about everything. I had to take on the role of counselor and have wound back up there. I know i need to be gentle and firm and tell her i will only take calls on my day off in case of emergency. Is that too harsh? She's the only family i have other than my three half brothers in Missouri.
She has a personality disorder...maybe narcissism?
I think setting a time is a very good idea. We talk every morning at 9:15 but them whenever she has a thought about what she neefs she picks up the,, phone.
Helping those with cancer would be a big wake up call for anyone. Maybe i will do that myself.
Yesterday i handed her info about the senior center and it looks like she wants to play bingo. I told her that even tho she thinks the other people are probably blue collar she needs to get out of the house. I mentioned assisted living because she thrives in social settings but it's taboo.
I'm not going to let her suck the life out of me anymore. Maybe i'll mention the whole cancer issue and put lufe in perspective for her.
Hugs to you all!