My mother is in assisted living and hates it. My mother tells my sister and I that she doesn’t like living alone. She calls on weekends and states do I have to be stuck at the assisted living facility ! Constant guilt and selfishness.
I will be glad when it’s her turn to go!
I see it's been hard for you (insert empathetic voice 😕).
So what are you going to do about that Mother?
Bounce that back to her - her life afterall.
Let any *hints* to be saved by you just fall to the ground ignored.
Go check on her when she's claiming this or that. See for yourself what's going on (or not going on, as it were) so you'll have some ammunition of your own!
If she's just moved into the AL, give her time to adjust. And let the calls go directly to voice mail, that's my suggestion. That way, you can pick & choose the calls you want to respond to.
Best of luck!
Really, what else can you do at this point?
Unless there is a legitimate reason for her to be complaining or you feel that she needs medical attention, then you will have to develop coping skills. Be thankful she is in a facility and not your home.
Check with her staff. If they say that she is fine. Then she can ramble while you enjoy your Pinot or Chardonnay!
Best wishes to you.