Mom has been ill she looked so bad thought she was going to die, she had a bad cold and refused to go to the hopital. She doesn't understand things when I tell her anything much anymore.
She is going to need more care and refuses also a nursing home which can understand. I can come only after work I can't just quit my job she needs care during the day too.
I've been coming over everyday after work to care for her. To clean up and make something for her to eat if she well.
She was fine over 2 months ago and now she isn't she is 86 yrs old.
She just wants to die. This is very hard to watch her I also call her from work so we are trying to find someone to come there during the day to feed her help her to the bathroom etc. She is very stubborn woman even when ill..
If anyone has any other options for home care please I would appreciate this.
Thank you,
My .02 is to be aware that home health aides/caretakers ain't cheap and it isn't paid for ny medicare. My mom will most likely pass before I drain her savings, but the $600 per week bill still kills me every time I write out another check.
My hospice is in the form of a nurse who showed me how to give needed meds, and checks in occasionally. They happily gave me a DNR to complete, which I never did. They dutifully sent over a social worker who discussed funerals. And a bereavement counselor who played in my garden (I have a huge rose garden) for 2 hours and talked about her family. I know this is part of the package deal, but really? What I need is respite, and honest advice and guidance. Hospice can be wonderful, but its not the be all/end all to end of life situations. This journey is heart wrenching, emotionally draining, mentally draining and I know my life is never going to be quite the same for the amount of stress I've been under. Please know you're not alone, there are a lot of us on this journey. Someone earlier on this forum said (a few weeks ago) a statement to the effect of "these elderly citizens are in uncharted territory, no previous generation has lived so well so long and they are not financially, emotionally, or mentally prepared to have lived so long".