Mom has been ill she looked so bad thought she was going to die, she had a bad cold and refused to go to the hopital. She doesn't understand things when I tell her anything much anymore.
She is going to need more care and refuses also a nursing home which can understand. I can come only after work I can't just quit my job she needs care during the day too.
I've been coming over everyday after work to care for her. To clean up and make something for her to eat if she well.
She was fine over 2 months ago and now she isn't she is 86 yrs old.
She just wants to die. This is very hard to watch her I also call her from work so we are trying to find someone to come there during the day to feed her help her to the bathroom etc. She is very stubborn woman even when ill..
If anyone has any other options for home care please I would appreciate this.
Thank you,
My mom also was on a roller coaster. There were times when I was sure she would not make it, but she recovered ... with a lot of oversight. Sadly, years later, when she seemed to be doing well, one day she didn't wake up and passed away comfortably in her sleep.
Based on that experience, and reading your summary... I'm suggesting that you contact Hospice, because they can be sure you get the resources she needs for good care. She may have many, many ups and downs.
In my mom's case, I just wanted her to be comfortable and to find happiness in her years. I hope you are able to find the help you and she need for the roller coaster and am hopeful her next up period is just around the corner for you both. All best wishes to you.