Hello, Has anyone else ever felt verbally attacked by there sibling? My sibling now lives with my 93 year old parent and whenever I call the house to say hello to him, my sibling rants and raves about caregiving and my dog that lives there. I moved out 8 months ago after living there and taking care of my father for over 20 years. I left my dog b/c my father LOVES him. My husband believes I'm taking this personally but how can I not when I fell it IS directed towards me? Thanks for your responses.
(And who wouldn't. I've just lost my dog. I am empathising in spades with your father's bond with yours).
I don't know what to suggest. Have you asked directly whether animal care is a problem for your brother? That might be the place to start.
Ask your sibling what you can do to help out. Come over for an hour or two a few times a week? Come over occasionally and make a meal, help clean, spend the night? Come over and do a few loads of laundry, vacuum, wash a few dishes or bring a pizza. Or maybe even arrange for a home health aide a few times a week if you aren’t able to do what I’ve suggested. I agree with your husband. Try being proactive instead of reactive.