Many of you know the problems with my sister. I did obtain sole guardianship of my mother, I just have to keep my siblings informed as to major decisions. I have to do a medicaid spend down for Mom so was seeking their input on prepaying for funeral arrangements. It started things all over again, she is demanding her baby pictures, baby book and a large portrait of my sister and I can just "send them COD asap". She has also called the attorney that I hired for guardianship (no longer under retainer) saying she is "concerned about how I am handling Mom's money and possessions."
Will this ever stop? Does anyone out there have any experience with something like this? Is there anything I can do to make her just stop?
There are families where one sibling does mishandle stuff, and you sound like a very responsible person who does not deserve the accusations and stepped in to take over exactly when and how you should have, being the one closest to Mom, but your distant sibling is legitimately hurting some too. Don't over-react and overdefend, but probably don't ignore even though you are legally entitled to. Here's hoping this all gets a little easier as trust is rebuilt and emotional adjustments are made to the sad realities of what is happening to Mom.
If sister has a beef, she can file something with the court. If it's off base, I'd ask to be reimbursed for attorney fees in defending it.
Ask the lawyer how to prevent her from doing this. Ask attorney about sending her a cease and desist letter. The laws on this vary by state.
I think I would ignore her and instruct her to communicate with me my mail only. When she realizes her efforts are pointless, maybe she will stop.
Who asked for baby pictures, baby book and portrait? Sister? If you feel you should send them, then I would send them to her. Make a copy first or you may have an attorney do it so she can't claim you never sent them or that you sent them damaged.
If you aren't going to send them, then explain why to her in writing or go through an attorney.