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get a massage, go to the pool.....but NEVER has time...or is too SICK, to spend a day with Mom and give me a break? Not expecting an answer...just needed to get that off my chest.
Traveling with Mom is not possible, plus it would defeat the purpose. It's her I need the break from. My sister actually took her yesterday, on errands, then to her house for dinner! It was such a treat! 7 hours of solitude! If she would do that once a week, instead of twice a year, i would be rested enough to take better care of mom. My Brother has a house in the mountains, and one in East Hampton, both gorgeous and both with HOT TUBS! I can use them anytime IF my Sister would come here to stay with Mom. She won't. Another Sister stayed with Mom for a week in april, and I went to the beach house. I had a tooth pulled the day before and had an allergic reaction to the antibiotic and was miserable! (typical luck for me,lol) Then the night before I got back, Sister "slept on her good ear" and didn't hear Mom get up to use the bathroom. Mom fell into the shower, turning the hot water on, on her way down. Yelled for Sis for over 10 minutes. I don't trust her anymore.(sigh). I was feeling sorry for myself the day I wrote this post. After yesterdays break I am feeling much better. Thank you for support. BTW, my real 1st name is Veronica too. Sister (the stupid one, not the selfish one) couldn't say "Roni" so my nickname was changed to Boni.;)
I realize you are doing this out of love for your mother and I can't see your sister changing her ways, she will probably get worse as she gets older. That being said you do need a break. Could you borrow your brother's home in the mountains and arrange for Mom to spend the time with one of you siblings. is mom well enough to travel maybe she could even go with you. Would not be much of a break for you but it would be really good for Mom. Good wishes
Yes, I understand how you feel. Caregiving is hard enough, but the stress is greatly intensified with uncooperative siblings. Not only do we have to deal with the sadness of aging parents, but, in addition, we have to deal with the added unwanted heavy burden of anger and resentment because of selfish siblings not helping out. Our lives, although still very hard, would be considerably easier if our siblings would give us a helping hand.
Thanks Y'all. My sister lives 5 minutes away and does not work and her children are grown. She has always been a hypochondriac and now "says" she has RA, you know.....because THAT disease "comes and goes"....... at her convenience. She is selfish, jealous, and has made my whole families, including Moms, lives miserable for far too many years. My wonderful brothers understand this very well, so I try not to vent about it to them when it's bothering me. Today it was eating me up. Thank you all for listening.
This is an all too common situation. My brother has not spoken to mom in over six years. Once in a great while someone posts about their family where everyone agrees and contributes. I find myself wondering what that would be like. I try to keep two things in mind - that I am demonstrating to my young adult children how to care for aging parents, and that what goes around comes around. I hope you feel relieved getting that off your chest, Boni.
I feel your pain!!!! My brother goes away to Mexico 2 weeks every year and Never calls or visits my Mom.. My other brother spends time away at his 2nd home in the mtns. and Never calls or visits... My sister also has a place in the Mtns. and Never calls or visits.. I've had my Mom living with me for 12 yrs !!! I Never go to the Mtns. or Mexico but I'm always here for my Mom...
By proceeding, I agree that I understand the following disclosures:
I. How We Work in Washington.
Based on your preferences, we provide you with information about one or more of our contracted senior living providers ("Participating Communities") and provide your Senior Living Care Information to Participating Communities. The Participating Communities may contact you directly regarding their services.
APFM does not endorse or recommend any provider. It is your sole responsibility to select the appropriate care for yourself or your loved one. We work with both you and the Participating Communities in your search. We do not permit our Advisors to have an ownership interest in Participating Communities.
II. How We Are Paid.
We do not charge you any fee – we are paid by the Participating Communities. Some Participating Communities pay us a percentage of the first month's standard rate for the rent and care services you select. We invoice these fees after the senior moves in.
III. When We Tour.
APFM tours certain Participating Communities in Washington (typically more in metropolitan areas than in rural areas.) During the 12 month period prior to December 31, 2017, we toured 86.2% of Participating Communities with capacity for 20 or more residents.
IV. No Obligation or Commitment.
You have no obligation to use or to continue to use our services. Because you pay no fee to us, you will never need to ask for a refund.
V. Complaints.
Please contact our Family Feedback Line at (866) 584-7340 or ConsumerFeedback@aplaceformom.com to report any complaint. Consumers have many avenues to address a dispute with any referral service company, including the right to file a complaint with the Attorney General's office at: Consumer Protection Division, 800 5th Avenue, Ste. 2000, Seattle, 98104 or 800-551-4636.
VI. No Waiver of Your Rights.
APFM does not (and may not) require or even ask consumers seeking senior housing or care services in Washington State to sign waivers of liability for losses of personal property or injury or to sign waivers of any rights established under law.
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I authorize A Place For Mom ("APFM") to collect certain personal and contact detail information, as well as relevant health care information about me or from me about the senior family member or relative I am assisting ("Senior Living Care Information").
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APFM may provide information to me electronically. My electronic signature on agreements and documents has the same effect as if I signed them in ink.
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That being said you do need a break. Could you borrow your brother's home in the mountains and arrange for Mom to spend the time with one of you siblings. is mom well enough to travel maybe she could even go with you. Would not be much of a break for you but it would be really good for Mom. Good wishes
She is selfish, jealous, and has made my whole families, including Moms, lives miserable for far too many years. My wonderful brothers understand this very well, so I try not to vent about it to them when it's bothering me. Today it was eating me up. Thank you all for listening.