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I feel that my life is passing me by while my mother is fine watching TV, talking on the phone and smoking 2 packs a day. She is controlling and angry. I love my mom but I think I have forgotten me.
Perky, I read on your profile that it's been 10 years, and that your mom is only 74. Why would you have to start taking care of her when she was only 64 years old? I guess I don't understand why she just sits all day just because she's afraid of falling? That's what they make walkers for. And I agree with the last person, this smoking thing I hope she's not subjecting you to second hand smoke which is just as deadly. And if she's not, and she's smoking outside, then is she afraid of falling when she's going outside to smoke? If she's living with you, then your house your rules and that would be no smoking in the house. I just think that if she's angry all the time you ought to be giving her something to be angry about. So if she can get herself out of the house to the store to buy cigarettes then she's well enough for you to have a life away from her. And if she depends on you to buy them, then that's where I would start to give her something to complain about, cause I'd stop being her errand girl. Maybe it's time to take some of the control back, and that's just one little step in the direction.
I can identify with the feelings of life passing you by. Even when you love the person you are caring for dearly someone elses routine is just that...someone elses. If you don't feel like you are enhancing your life in some way, however small, it can feel soul crushing.
You absolutely need to find something that you can do (read, exercise, study, puzzles, computer games, hobby) that is easy to pick up and put down during caregiving.
I moved in to help my mother care for my grandmother because her 24-7 needs were too much for mom to handle alone. My grandma is in hospice for end stage heart disease (dementia is on the ride with us just for some fun). I thought we'd be taking care of her and then it would be over but it will be 2 years in May with no real signs of stopping.
Some days are better than others. I find that I do better on days that I take time for myself first. If I can get my own shower, get dressed and grab a cup of tea or coffee, I'm in much better shape for my day.
Your Mom's smoking must be hard to deal with. Chain smoking in a room can be so hard on the caregiver. What is her health problem?
Flight attendants tell you on airplanes to ALWAYS put your own oxygen on before you help someone else. I think of that every morning when I'm on duty for grandma.
By proceeding, I agree that I understand the following disclosures:
I. How We Work in Washington.
Based on your preferences, we provide you with information about one or more of our contracted senior living providers ("Participating Communities") and provide your Senior Living Care Information to Participating Communities. The Participating Communities may contact you directly regarding their services.
APFM does not endorse or recommend any provider. It is your sole responsibility to select the appropriate care for yourself or your loved one. We work with both you and the Participating Communities in your search. We do not permit our Advisors to have an ownership interest in Participating Communities.
II. How We Are Paid.
We do not charge you any fee – we are paid by the Participating Communities. Some Participating Communities pay us a percentage of the first month's standard rate for the rent and care services you select. We invoice these fees after the senior moves in.
III. When We Tour.
APFM tours certain Participating Communities in Washington (typically more in metropolitan areas than in rural areas.) During the 12 month period prior to December 31, 2017, we toured 86.2% of Participating Communities with capacity for 20 or more residents.
IV. No Obligation or Commitment.
You have no obligation to use or to continue to use our services. Because you pay no fee to us, you will never need to ask for a refund.
V. Complaints.
Please contact our Family Feedback Line at (866) 584-7340 or ConsumerFeedback@aplaceformom.com to report any complaint. Consumers have many avenues to address a dispute with any referral service company, including the right to file a complaint with the Attorney General's office at: Consumer Protection Division, 800 5th Avenue, Ste. 2000, Seattle, 98104 or 800-551-4636.
VI. No Waiver of Your Rights.
APFM does not (and may not) require or even ask consumers seeking senior housing or care services in Washington State to sign waivers of liability for losses of personal property or injury or to sign waivers of any rights established under law.
I agree that:
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I authorize A Place For Mom ("APFM") to collect certain personal and contact detail information, as well as relevant health care information about me or from me about the senior family member or relative I am assisting ("Senior Living Care Information").
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APFM may provide information to me electronically. My electronic signature on agreements and documents has the same effect as if I signed them in ink.
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APFM may send all communications to me electronically via e-mail or by access to an APFM web site.
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If I want a paper copy, I can print a copy of the Disclosures or download the Disclosures for my records.
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This E-Sign Acknowledgement and Authorization applies to these Disclosures and all future Disclosures related to APFM's services, unless I revoke my authorization. You may revoke this authorization in writing at any time (except where we have already disclosed information before receiving your revocation.) This authorization will expire after one year.
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You consent to APFM's reaching out to you using a phone system than can auto-dial numbers (we miss rotary phones, too!), but this consent is not required to use our service.
So if she can get herself out of the house to the store to buy cigarettes then she's well enough for you to have a life away from her. And if she depends on you to buy them, then that's where I would start to give her something to complain about, cause I'd stop being her errand girl. Maybe it's time to take some of the control back, and that's just one little step in the direction.
You absolutely need to find something that you can do (read, exercise, study, puzzles, computer games, hobby) that is easy to pick up and put down during caregiving.
I moved in to help my mother care for my grandmother because her 24-7 needs were too much for mom to handle alone. My grandma is in hospice for end stage heart disease (dementia is on the ride with us just for some fun). I thought we'd be taking care of her and then it would be over but it will be 2 years in May with no real signs of stopping.
Some days are better than others. I find that I do better on days that I take time for myself first. If I can get my own shower, get dressed and grab a cup of tea or coffee, I'm in much better shape for my day.
Your Mom's smoking must be hard to deal with. Chain smoking in a room can be so hard on the caregiver. What is her health problem?
Flight attendants tell you on airplanes to ALWAYS put your own oxygen on before you help someone else. I think of that every morning when I'm on duty for grandma.
hugs to you!