i visit edna in the am with hot breakfast and again in the afternoon for a little drive or whatever she wants to do. mostly my game is emotional and personal comfort support. i keep the med planners prepared too . thise eve edna didnt have the wits about her to beep me into the building so i crossed the street to where her daughter lives in the same complex and asked her to beep me in. she hung up the phone on me.
freakin dummy . she probably thinks now that home care is involved they dont need me. ill let the social worker know in the am that the meds are up in the air at this point so edna is kept safe and we'll just play this out with a degree of patience and humor. edna speaks very well for herself and she has a doc who listens. daughter was hiding her from doc a few months ago to protect projected assets and doc is well aware of it. one screwup and she'll be in handcuffs.
one or more of the home care women may have sidled up to daughter but their 8 dollar an hour azzes could effectively be replaced by cardboard sillohettes.
the complex mgmt has seen years of daughters neglect and theyre in my court. everything will be fine..
she cautioned me about causing daughter damage. when I insisted I hadn't she firmly told me to forget it and don't worry about it. whatever happened she knew that sharons feet needed scooted closer to the fire.. that's what aps routinely does. I usedta think it cruel but na, dementia gets complicated and its only right that the family lean in and give back a little..
home care is ill with me because i told them not to strongarm edna into the bathroom and handwash her like a pet against her steady protest. for all of their visits this is about the only thing they need to sign off on to get paid. for the second time now i have a pack of females attempting to trivialize me. having something sexist to prove makes them look foolish imo as there isnt a sexist bone in my body. they demean themselves..