I just want to thank everyone for taking the time to answer our questions.
I'm new at carving for my dad. Today it will be one week. Moving him from out of state after my mom died and getting him into what seems to be, a loving facility has been one of, if not the most stressful weeks of my life.
And I know there will be more obstacles ahead of us. But I've been reading through this forum for the past couple of days, and I have read so many helpful answers. It's helping me get prepared mentally for situations that might come up and realize that I'm not alone. Also, it could be a lot worse.
I believe I have found the ticket. Where I can come to if I'm overwhelmed and just need to vent. If I need answers to questions that none of my friends know how to answer. I'm amazed at how quick everyone is to share their advice, their experiences and to help uplift people they have never met.
So, thank you, and God bless you all.
So many just get stuck and can't even imagine leaving there home. It's so hard on them when it doesn't have to be. Glad your dad is doing well.
I know that I have a lot to do, but my hands are tied until the POA papers are signed next week.
I took dad to get groceries today, and when they were unpacked, I asked him if he'd like to go downstairs in the common area to play some cards until 11 am. I told him Saturdays are my cleaning days so I can't usually come on Saturday.
While we were playing cards, I knew people would be around and I wanted to give them a heads up that dad is deaf, he's not ignoring you (:
And within a few minutes dad met a fellow marine, my dad is a proud marine and wears his hat with pride. Dad's new friend Ed invited dad to the veterans coffee, donut and "bull----" get together the last Monday of every month
!!!!! Dad will enjoy it there, I just know it!
Hope you join because your own advice on your journey will come, and you can share it. We all started out where you are.
Please do stay, help answer, ask questions, vent and be a member of the community. Many of us here have know one another more than 5 years.
Asking for help of any kind was the hardest thing for me. And something I'm still learning to be comfortable doing. I honestly didn't feel worthy for help.
I have always said when faced with something why blaze a new trail when you can walk one that has been made. At some point someone else has gone through a similar situation and you can use what they learned to help yourself.
What you need to remember are BOUNDARIES.
A few other tid bits of knowledge.
You can't do it all yourself.
2 of the most difficult things about caregiving are...Asking for help and Accepting help.
Now you can share what you have learned with others,.
Then scrolling I found this forum and changed my life, to finally have support. That it's ok if I don't go to moms, that I'm not the most rotten person in the world because I'm so tired of being around a narcissist that never stops waiting more of me, someone that literally gets mad at me for having covid (in the fall) because I couldn't go to moms, and having family that says , Nacy will do it, Nacy will do it.
Everyone on this forum gave my faith back in humanity.
Answer peoples problems and questions, helps me to. It helps me remember who I was , where I came from, and who I want to be. Reading others stories is so humbling. Reading stories of people that have it so much worse than I do, helps and helping them .
I'm so glad we could help you, any time .
You and me are not alone anymore!!
We don't have to go through this alone anymore.
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