The constant arguing and negativity dished out to me daily by my 89 year old mother is slowly killing me. I can see the change and depression in myself. Every single day is a battle with her. I here about all her ailments and her complaining constantly about being constipated.. She can have a bowel movement and then swear that it never happened. She is getting to be a terror to deal with. I try to do the right things with her care and it's a constant battle. I wish you people could see what I go through. My mother is the Jekyel/Hyde type.....she acts nice and quiet in front of others.....but is a terror around me. Now I can see why many caregivers die before the one they are caring for. Each day is living h*ll for me.
What if Mom has a bad hemorrhoid that makes it feel like she has to have a BM no matter what she does? Maybe it is not a totally ridiculous obsession she is torturing you with, maybe that's what it always feels like. Could you get it checked out? Maybe ALL of us have been distracted by how you have been presenting the problem.
It is good to have medical professionals on the forum to keep information updated.
I facilitate support group for dementia caregivers where we seat around the table and share our experiences and find answers how to take care of yourself and our loved ones with dementia.
I am specializing in dementia care and would like to tell you there is unfortunately no cure yet , but lots of help.
The best is respite where you can bring your mom for a week or even for a weekend and get some break.
Feel free to post your own story, concerns, and questions. We won't dismiss you abruptly!
I second assandache