Not really a question or needing help, just realization. Caring for my husbands dad with one of us having to always be here now or one of my parents coming in while we go out to do something together, we have noticed it is pulling at our heart strings as one of us brings our 2-1/2 year old daughter to see things for the first time. We recently have taken turns taking her to a fair so we could both see the joy on her face because his dad refused to go with us, even for a little while. It is heart breaking, because I feel bad asking my parents to come sit with him every time we go do something. They are coming soon so we can go to a party as a family. We haven't been out together in a while, I think baby girl will love it. My husband and I just said this morning, if his dad doesn't improve to be able to stay alone, we may have to look into a sitter for weekend outings for us to go even to the zoo. My FIL is a fall risk, using a walker, has all his mental capacity, and needs to waited on mostly, but can't be left alone due to the fall risk. He has fallen in past.
We were hoping for a better answer than getting old and just have to deal with it. The doctor said the medication should help and see a difference in a month, if not he will run more test.
Does your Dad-in-law qualify for Medicaid? If so, contact your local Medicaid office to see what they have available in the line of Aides to come to the house to help.