I guess I was having a pity party since nobody in my family calls or emails or texts to see how I am doing with that woman next door. All she did was the same as always. Lay around,take pills,overdose on pills,talk about how sick she is.etc.etc. So my day was just another day in my life. I cooked,cleaned,potted flowers for myself,and just basically felt so lonely. When I went back over there just now she starts telling me "who called you?" anybody call you? I just didnt answer,I had nothing to say to her dumb ass. She is plotting to call 911 in the morning and I am glad today is over now.
I, too, cried on my birthday because a close family member knew it was my birthday, but did not acknowledge it. I am glad you planted flowers. I love them too. I wish i could have taken you go lunch on your special day. What i can and will do, is say a special prayer for you.
SO many more days to celebrate, it doesn't matter if anyone
remembers, both the pain and sharing my celebration is
spread out over the month.
After a trip to Trader Joe's for my cake, I'm good.
I'm glad you're feeling better. I know how it hurts to be forgotten on your birthday by those family members that are supposed to care for you. I have one adult son, a daughter in law, 6 grandkids, one brother, and of course Mom (but she doesn't count because of her dementia). Not one of them called, texted, or sent me a card for my birthday in March. This is the second year it's been that way. Last year I was terribly hurt, this year I'm just pissed off about it. They all seem to have my number when they need a loan or to borrow my truck, but they couldn't even send me a simple little birthday greeting.
Well, times are a changing!! I guess I know where I rate in their lives. It's time for me to re-evaluate where they rate in my life.
Just like with caregiving, it's amazing how we can get more support from a group of folks on a website than we can with our own families.
Again, Deb Happy Birthday to you and I wish you many more!!
So glad to be 'here' for you. You deserve it!
HAPPY BIRTHDAY, DEB :)
So what was for dinner? Wish I could've been there too! It's just starting to rain here in Minnesota so I think I just cancelled my plans to grill. Going to try Trader Joe's frozen Kung Pao chicken with some rice. Not my norm, I like to 'scratch' cook, but I'm getting ready for a garage sale in 10 days. Spent the entire day in the basement sorting through a mountain of boxes of things she wouldn't let me get rid of when she lived with us. I've found boxes of empty boxes. Oh the joy of her hoarding. Yikes!
Okay, now it's hailing. Time to move the pansies under cover!
Thank you all for being here for me. I wish you all could of come for dinner I made.
So, happy birthday, such as it is; you know, planting your own garden is what most of us have to do one way or another (figuratively or literally!), and here is my fond hope and prayer that by next birthday if not sooner, something will have changed and you can find life worth living again.
What kind of flowers did you pot up? I made a mini-garden yesterday with baby's tears and some cool low growing succulents. Stuck some tiny ceramic animals from my youth in with the plants. That cheered me up from the unending negativity I get from my mom.
Please enjoy your flowers and when you see them know there are people on here who do care and understand.
I do wish that not celebrating our birthday meant that we didn't get a year older. Now that would be cool. I would enjoy not celebrating every year.