He's starting to misplace things and forget certain things. Everytime I bring this up, he says he's fine where he is. I really want to get ahead of the curve and don't want to do this when I have no other choice. Any advice on strategies would be helpful. Thanks.
Good luck!
Hap
I don't blame you for wanting to get "ahead of the curve" I am the same way. But please do not be pressured by out-of-town family...it is easy to criticize from the cheap seats. If you are the primary caregiver, then it is up to you to make these decisions. If family wants to help let them know that being "pressured" is not helping and ask them to pitch in. Ask them to come for a week and help you decide on a placement (I'll bet they'll be on the next plane :o)
You may want to consider temporary, interim solutions like in-home care a few hours a day - just for respite and to give you a chance to catch your breath. You don't want to change your father's placement just because you felt you needed to rush into a decision.
Take care...good luck
I am trying to do this now for my Mom...although, I don't know how long we will be able to keep her in her hom. She is in her 80s too and so far it has worked out okay. I do know that seniors are mentally and spiritually happier in their homes, no matter how nice a "facility" is.
It really depends on an elder's mental state, mobility, and safety.
good luck with your plans
Lilli