When we get angry, overwhelmed, side-tracked by others' needs we might forget to make time for little things that keep us happy within ourselves throughout the day. Aside from emotional eating (usually on sweets or bad types of fats), what kinds of activities and small rituals do you do by and for yourself to help you stay on the track of feeling good about yourself, healthy, hopeful, spiritually connected, and knowing you are fueling your inner joy?
Let's share some ideas and practices and see if we can inspire each other.
I think there is always a moment or something that you do that calls you "home".
I think both these men and others like them might find a deep satisfaction in being loyal to the end to their wives. They seem to be rooted firmly who they are and not needy in any of the usual ways like younger men. But that's my narrow opinion. I havent' seen otherwise yet, but I am sure the other side of the coin is there. The question is, would you be willing to step into such a relationship?
Otherwise you will be sitting in the lounge with all the other residents coloring hopefully within the lines of the pictures kindly provided by the nice OT lady
Music I have not had around for a while, I am not very digital/technical and all of our other music/equipment is in storage at the moment while renovating! I love blasting music while housecleaning like you sharyn, it makes it tolerable! momma would catch me dancing around and say "geeettttt oonnn dowwwnnn" in her cute little way, I crack up everytime! I suppose I could put a little effort into Pandora or something.( in my spare time, hahahahahahahaha)
And I was just thinking the same thing about the pic's within the hour!
I just had one I wanted someone to see and all I could come up with is to put it in my profile and message them, but it was too much for that little square, cant see it!
Is there a way of sharing photos or videos here? I guess we can make links right?
I used to make sculpture. I'd love to see ladeeM's work.
Canning is a great way to do something relaxing and useful. Cooking is fun when one has the time. My "mindless" time is reading and writing on this site! :)
Mom's been gone a year now and I miss her every day. Took a while to get back to what my real life is all about. I know I was where I was meant to be those last 3 years of her life and wouldn't have traded that time for anything!
Those of you with long-tem caregiving have my admiration and respect! You are the angels among us!
i totally refound myself while canning this fall .. all those pretty apples will make great trading material too .. already swapped some for some steel tubing .
the doc im working for gave me an endless firewood cutting gig this spring after i completed some stone landscaping for him . hes possibly the most brilliant person ive ever befriended and i know for a fact that he sent me to the forest because he knew the woodcutting was good therapy for me after losing mom and the upheaval of moving back home . so im saying that good , physical , no brainer type work is relaxing for a person too .
and yea i light up some jams every now and then too . if you guys arent aware of it , im telling you now . you can get the proper cable about anywhere to plug into your pc earphone jack and shove it into one of the functions on your home stereo receiver ( ie phono ) and you are suddenly jammin on youtube at 200 watts ..
Still like that old time rock 'n' roll
That kind of music just soothes the soul
I reminisce about the days of old
With that old time rock 'n' roll
Nothing like music to stir the imagination and transport a person from the mundane to a better place. Happy music is a good natural antidepressant. Mellow music is a good sedative. There's music for every mood.
I agree Cap, if I am not accomplishing anything I feel stuck and useless. Seems to me, even though I am taking full time care of mom, that there is something else I can do when she's napping (aside the obvious house crap) something that entertains me and has some sort of skill involved, something that will help later on when things are different?
Hitting level 400 on Candy Crush didn't quite feel accomplishing :/
i also enjoy going to rummage and garage sales and fixing things up or repurposing. right now I am dreaming about converting a school bus to living space on a minute budget. Given the price of land to park it may have to remain a dream. so many things and so little time. no time for boredom in my retirement.
edna at nh gets agitated and shaky unless they give her work to do . idle time gives a person too much time to dwell on their fears imo ..