My wife's mother got evicted 6 months ago and moved in with us, she is 60yrs old has failing health and no income. We gave her my son's bedroom and he been sleeping on the couch. My wife had to sign her up for medicaid and disability she got the medicaid but still waiting on the disability. The problem I have with my mother-in-law is that shes not sanitary she uses the restroom, coughs and uses tissue to wipe her nose and then goes in the refridgerator and dont wash her hands before touching food that we have to eat.No one has said anything to her because we dont want to hurt her feelings. Is it wrong for me to want to put her in a shelter i cant takke her being unsanitary no more plz help
Be nice about it, but firm. "We have rules in this house, and we would like you to follow them. We will remind you until you get into the habit of doing it."
OH - and give your son his room back. MIL on the couch might help her want to help you make the change.
I guess I see more potential problems here than the hand-washing thing. It sounds like you do not have a big enough place to easily accommodate another adult.
I have the same questions already asked. Why was she evicted? What is the nature of her disability. For example, does she have cognitive problems that would make it hard for her to learn proper hygiene? What was the long-term plan when your moved her in? It sounds like you are making progress in helping her solve her money problems. Hooray! Good for you guys! Disability often takes a long time -- hang in there!
Personally, I think you next step is to help her find her own housing, just as you're helping her sign up for Medicaid and Disability. I can't see how living with you is going to work out long-term.
In the mean time, tell Mom-in-law it is the flu season and everyone has to wash their hands even after they cough or blow their nose. And make an example with the whole household doing this.