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My mom and dad had named each other as their POA’s and then my brother, me, and then my sister. My dad passed away last year and I was the one who handled everything, finances, funeral arrangements, etc. My mom is in the beginning stages of dementia and Wants me to continue taking care of finances. I am also her main caretaker. My brother and sister prefer I continue to take care of her finances (they give lots of support in so many ways) as I’m the one who has already experienced what needs to be done when she eventually leaves us. My question is, since everything is already in place, do we need to do anything to show I’m the main POA instead of my brother?

Does your POA only come into effect if your brother passes or revokes his POA? If so, I would see the lawyer who drew up the POA. If Mom can still make decisions, she can revoke your brothers POA or he can step down, then your POA can be invoked. Unless the POAs are immediate, no one has any rights until Mom is declared incompetent to make informed decisions by a doctor or doctors.

You need to read that POA carefully. I think even if brother passed, you have to formally invoke your POA, it just does not revert to you automatically. I would have a lawyer look over the document and explain how this all works.

Beaware, that POA ends at death.
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Depends on your relationship with siblings and how much you trust it. If this were my brother, I’d be taking mother to get POA officially changed immediately before the dementia precludes it, because unfortunately, my brother cannot be trusted with anything financial. If you’re positive beyond doubt your brother is solid, it’s less important but still a good idea to update anything needed before the dementia makes it impossible
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PoA cannot be "passed on" by another PoA. In the eyes of the government and courts you are NOT the "main PoA" right now or ever no matter how much of the responsibility you are doing. Your Mom would need to legally assign you as such.

If she's in the beginning stages of dementia then go with her now to an elder law attorney. This attorney will privately interview her for legal capacity and to make sure she's not being coerced. The bar for capacity is pretty low so don't make any assumptions. Her backup PoA can be your brother and sister, etc. or maybe consider a generation younger than you, if someone local, willing and competent is a good candidate.
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Get the POA "officially" changed ASAP or you may be in for a difficult time down the road.
Make an appointment with the lawyer that did the original paperwork.
The only potential problem you may face is if your brother resists the change. He may contend that your mom does not have capacity to make the changes necessary.
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I'm with newbiewife, do what you can to make this official because otherwise everything that requires a signature will have to go through your brother, which not only complicates things it will be a huge p-i-t-a.
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If mom is only at beginning stages of dementia, you folks might want to work with a lawyer to have mom's POA document reworded so you are first in line, then brother, then sister. This should be doable since it sounds as though Mom wants you to be the one handling her affairs.
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No. Absolutely not; you don't need to do a thing but keep meticulous records, and give copied to brother.
Your brother, as named as the POA now, IS the POA now, no matter what you do. HE is responsible. If he trusts you completely, and you want to do this work, continue as you are.

You are welcome to do this work if you are willing; and your brother is welcome to provide you to do this work. HOWEVER, your brother as the current POA is responsible that it is well done, and should oversee it.

If you feel you are currently doing the work for the most part, and don't wish to continue, then tell brother it's on him and hand over the records.

If you do wish to continue, then give copies to your brother of your monthly/yearly records.

If you wish to be DESIGNATED as what you truly are doing, and it's a deal breaker, then tell brother "I am currently doing the work. I would like the POA. " and he can resign. It would then pass to you. And on to your sister if something happens to you.

There's nothing wrong with doing it now just as you are. Your brother SHOULD however, since he will have been considered to have assigned you to do the record keeping, oversee it.
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