He says I want him to fall. Gets extremely angry. I told him that he can wear his swim suit. I'm his daughter. I am at my wits end. He stopped taking a shower way before his wife died June 30. He doesn't smell though, so he must be washing himself with soap using the sink. If I don't change his clothes, and put out clean ones he will wear the same ones until I can slip in and change them.
To be honest, he doesn’t seem to need to shower as much anymore. Also, I wash parts of him at a time, so when he changes his shirt every few days, I try to have a soapy washcloth ready. That seems to really help. He refuses to allow the home aides to wash him.
Good luck to you. Even though he fights you now, he won’t always, at least not as much.