I feel stuppid for asking lame questions every day but.. here goes. Betty ( MIL) has been upset of lte that I don't go on outtings with her and my hubby so today I showered and went along, she wanted to buy bras. So we looked for them and found some great sales, she wore tired and I got her a wheel chair and gave her a coke and a pain pill. within an hour she was on a wild shopping spree buying out the store. She got herself 2 bras then went to the mens section and found great sales on jeans, slacks and belts for my hubby. She got confused between the womens department and the petites, she is very tiny and normaly buys petites. We ended up in the ladies department and she started picking out items for me and I was hesitant, I can't afford these $ 50 dollar jeans even marked down half off. She got me a pair of jeans a pair of shorts and 2 tops. Before we left the house she didn't like what I was wearing and wasn't shy to tell me to go change LOL which I did to apease her. I know when her credit cards comes in she won't remember these purchases, she has forgotten in the past. I'm stuck in the middle, if I refuse them she will call me everything under the sun and say I am just trying to NOT GET ALONG but when the bill hits and she won't remember she will say we are abusing her credit and will start another fight. WHAT DO I DO?
Or make up a story that the credit card was stolen on-line and it will take time to get a new one... but in the mean time here is some cash to use for your next shopping trip. We call these fibs "therapeutic fibs".
It is just common sense.
When she's making the purchase for you, take a selfie of her, you and the item. Or your hubby, her and the item. Get the idea?
That way she can see how happy she was at the time, and that you can appreciate her kindness! When the bill comes, well, nobody is happy.
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If you've been down this path before and it results in disaster when the bill comes, perhaps you could put away the gift items and not use them until after the bill arrives. You can get them out and remind her gently that this is the belt she bought for her son and these are the jeans she bought you, etc. Then you can ask if she'd like to return them.
I guess I wouldn't use things until the bill comes and she's paid, in case she gets buyer's remorse.
My mother often offers to buy me something when I take her shopping for clothes. I tell her that really I don't need anything and she accepts it. If I thought it would offend her, I would look for something inexpensive.