89 yr old father with ALZ and Dementia. he has always been hyper-sexual (even to his own children). Always considered himself a ladies' man, Casanova type person. He has only been in this nursing home for 3 months and already 4 reports of him entering other women's rooms and kissing them. One was asleep and woke up screaming, had to to go thru DON Dept of Nursing for that one. Other times the female patients seem to think he is the boyfriend and want to kiss and visit in their rooms. Nursing home policy is to notify the families of those involved. I am worried about the female patients' families a lot. But these calls are getting tiring and stressful. The last nursing home he was off the hook with demanding mouth kisses from every female he encountered, staff and visitors and other patients. At home between nursing home, I could barely keep home health care or family visitors due to his sexual behavior. No use talking to him, explaining he can't do that; he either has forgotten, doesn't care, thinks it is wonderful, defensive, blames someone else for wanting him so much they can't keep their hands off of him reasoning...anyone else encounter this from a parent? How do you cope? Any suggestions? He is wheelchair bound. I've even thought about asking if they could just remove his wheelchair once he is in bed for the night to keep him in his own room. I'm getting worried he will soon be kicked out of this nursing home for his lecherous behavior. I'm not dealing with him cornering me again with me taking care of him, always trying to get under my shirt or demanding mouth kisses or trying to coax me into his bed...shudder. This behavior is not new, we couldn't even have friends over while growing up because of his sexual nature. the behavior has just escalated to new heights with the ALZ. Any HELP out there?
Many men of his generation seemed to think it was perfectly acceptable to make sexual remarks to women, and to get "handsy" sometimes. It was part of proving they were real he-men, or something. I can't tell you how many old-timers I had to push off me when I started out working as a young newspaper reporter. No matter how much I told them it wasn't acceptable, they never seemed to get the message. It was something about "the Greatest Generation" that I found particularly revolting.
Definitely move his wheelchair so he can't go creeping into women's rooms at night, like the Sheik of Araby.
From one daughter to another I can appreciate how difficult and uncomfortable this must be for you and I'm sorry you have to go through this.
This must be a very difficult situation for you. Hopefully someone who has had a similar experience will respond to your post.
Since your father's had this issue for what sounds like most of his adult life he's not likely to change now. I think his being asked to leave the NH at some point is a very real concern.
Have you spoken to his Dr. about anti-anxiety meds? I don't think your father's behavior is related to anxiety but the meds may slow him down a bit. If it were my father I'd rather he be medicated than prowling the hallways looking for women to assault.