Mom continually talks and talks. This is hard to explain. I want to be able to tell her that something is not right with her mind/thinking nowadays. One thing she'll do is when anyone is talking about an issue (example: my brother and I cleaning up the Turkey and what we should keep from the left overs ..Mom has to come in and put her 2 cents in saying something like 'in the old days we did it this way or that way' but her suggestion is not ok or helpful what so ever) This kind of thing is going on ALL THE TIME. She starts talking about something and within mins she will forget and start talking about something totally different, but she thinks she is perfectly fine and all of us are totally wrong. It is so hard to deal with. I want to tell her that she is having a problem. What can I say?
You can also start informing yourself by looking up dementia on some of the search engines, but try not to jump to conclusions until you know more.
Good luck. Hope you will keep us informed on this journey. You could conceivably be looking at anxiety complex of some kind, but I think that is unlikely.
If she hasn't been diagnosed with dementia yet, I'd get her to the doctor for an evaluation. As far as telling her what's going on, I wouldn't be using the word 'dementia' with her at all. My mother was diagnosed with progressive dementia in 2016 and now lives in Memory Care. To this day I have not used the word 'dementia' with her, but I do let her know she has memory problems if she raises any questions. She DOES realize she has memory problems, of course, so I'm not telling her any earth shattering news. Explaining dementia or Alzheimer's to your mother is not going to help her in any way, or fix the situation, or stop her from the cycle of chronic repetition she gets stuck in, so there's no useful purpose in it (in my opinion).
Here is a link to an article about coping mechanisms for dealing with repetitive behaviors:
https://www.alz.org/help-support/caregiving/stages-behaviors/repetition
Best of luck!
I am sorry, but how can a suggestion be not okay? It's like saying that your opinion is wrong, what?
Are you being overly sensitive because you know what and how to do things and she is making you feel like a child because she is "putting her 2 cents in?"
You should involve a doctor and get an actual diagnosis, because none of us deal well with a family member telling us that we are not right in our heads. She has already shown you that she thinks she is not the problem, why create hurt or hard feelings by pushing your opinion on her, let the professionals be the bad guy.
Be patient and kind with your mother. Listen to her and then if you want, do things your own way anyway. However, if there are things she’s doing that you haven’t told us about, you might want to suggest a doctor visit.
Take her to her doctor.