Please no lectures or negative rants. I know my rights, responsibilities and limits, just would like some kind words or helpful tips with this specific question. :)
My mom turns to me as a support when needed - with my consent. She has high anxiety due to her lot in life and lifestyle. I encourage her regularly to try a counsellor, talk to her doctor or try calming exercises and she often takes my suggestions- but that is not my point...
I sometimes feel frustrated when she is panicking. Apparently I sound calm when talking with her but I certainly don't feel it inside. It can really rattle me especially when it takes so long to figure out what the root of the issue is.
Any "in the moment" tips for me to feel calmer on the inside when it is happening?
Or, if you have a good resource I can tap into to support me as I work with her anxiety that would be great.
Thank you.
That's what a therapist would do -- be a sounding board, but not really someone who provides the answers. A good therapist helps the patient figure things out for themselves. Since she won't go to a therapist, this technique might work for you.
Good luck -- that's a burden you don't need.
What do you do to care for your spirit, especially knowing you could help your relative if she allowed?