His sister has moved with their mother and won't tell him the address. We are so frustrated. My husband's sister decided to move in with their elderly mother who has progressive dementia. At first we thought it was a good idea but now she has moved with their mom and won't tell my husband where they have moved to. We know she has convinced my mother in law to add the sister's name to her bank account and we believe that she is helping herself to the life savings the mom has spent her whole life accumulating. My husband was the POA but the sister convinced the mom to replace him with you know who. Isn't it tragic that we are talking about family members that commit this kind of treachery.
Sil has not won she just thinks she has. whatever she has done will not make her happy. You have a wonderful loving family so move forward and appreciate them. The past is over and done with
Thanks for all of you. When I needed to vent you were on this forum offering your kindness.
Just read your post to my hubbie and he said thank you for your concern and caring words.
We did not have to go through probate because my's mom's assets were spent on her care, but maybe someone who has been through it can advise whether probate can and will insist on getting the information that sister is still withholding from you on the bank accounts...again, my sincere condolences, my heart really aches to hear this has played out in such a sad way...I guess the only good is that hubby got one more visit with Mom, and at least she can't be hurt any more.
I said I would keep you updated about what evil sis has concocted. After hiding MIL for about 2 months my husband and I hired a private detective to find the mom which we did. His evil sis was livid and called him and I every name in the book. Including expletives. Fortunately we still got to see his mom for a little while. When we arrived home 3 days later we got the call that MIL had fallen and found out that she has broken a hip. Evil sis said that MIL was trying to race her to the door. Their mother could barely keep her balance so we know this is a lie. We think evil sis was very negligent. Possibly caused MIL's fall. The story keeps changing about the fall. Because of the surgery and complications MIL passed away on July 21st. We are devastated and think the SIL is responsible. Regrettably MIL did not have a will so everything goes to probate. We believe that SIL has been financially exploiting their mom. When he asked about mom's estate and the bank account she said their mother gave all the money away. That makes no sense because I'm sure his mom felt she was going to live for a while. SIL is a pathological liar and we think she has the money but she will give us not information. Nothing like dealing with a criminal in your family.
start with ip address then diagnosis date...you have to have data not just heresay to get authorities involved
if the bank rep said mil was competent, who completed the change of poa document? you can read about the types of poa documents and who is required to sign on the various types...i think you should continue to pursue because a person with dementia is typically confused and exectutive functions are the first to go so to speak...poor judgement also occurs early on....an attorney met with me and mom and did not feel my mom understood what was going on poa wise so he declined to grant me poa...my mom hasnt understood alot of paperwork details for a long time..i had to have poa because she was living with me and sister wouldnt talk to us and someone had to be able to make decisions medical and financial for my mom as mom couldnt do it for sure. we found an excellent attorney who spent a great deal of time with mom; she heard the story of why i needed poa then she explained every detail to mom with each explanation which was 2nd grade level mom had to say whether she understood or not and she always understood...thank heavens. then the attorney spoke to mom alone...which the banker should have done to ensure that i wasnt coopercing my mother...all is well poa wise here.