As many of you already know it took time and many tears to come to the decision for my husband and I to move in with my father. I work a 2nd shift at the hospital as a lab tech and my husband has a normal day shift.....there is about a 5 hour spot where neither one of us is able to be with Dad. So I hired an elderly lady from our church and I was lucky to get her....alot of people in our church that sit were taken already. Daddy is not happy and said that he does not need her and she can go. Im sure it is a BIG change for him. I really cannot quit my job right now but im here the rest of the time or my husband.....I told dad it is just for 5 hours for 5 days a week and to please work with me....He accuses me of not listening to him....I have listened to him....he told me "No more hospitals" so I got him on with Hospice (He has chronic COPD) he told me "No homes" so we worked out that we would could be here for him. He is also suffering from possible early dementia .... he has no more short-term memory. Im trying to go with his wishes ....on my days off I can have the sitter not be there but sometimes I would still like to have her so I can go clean at my home or get some errands done alone.....I do take daddy on most...but sometimes it is healthy for me to have "ME" time. But I guess my question is does anyone have an idea how to make this 'sitter' idea easier for him??? No other family can chip in and no other sitter available at this time....she herself is very nice and even does light house work but the entire time she is here daddy ignores her and does not speak until spoken too...and will not eat when she is here.
Thank you for letting me vent....loving this sight....it has helped me already with what im facing! My everyone have a great day!
What about an older male from the church to be with your Dad, he would have a lot more in common than with a lady from the church which could be very awkward for him, and I don't blame him.