Received a call from hospice that mother in law was put in hospice and they didn’t think she had much longer to live. We were told days possibly weeks max. Hubby and I flew half way across the country to see what was going on. Completely unaware that cancer was back and nothing could be done.) Hubby has a job and could not take time off to stay with his mother, after discussing things I said I would stay. She wanted to stay in her home, and we understood and we were willing to accommodate that wish. Nine months later and I am still here. I’m upset that I am at the beck and call of his mother. I’ve only been out of the house three times on my own in the time I’ve been here. I’m also taking care of her dog that is not house broke, and will only come near me if I’m feeding it. Am I selfish for wanting to go home (my home) and telling MiL that she needs to come to my house if she wants someone to take care of her?
Mil can be admitted to a facility near her home or near yours. Those are the only choices on offer.