It's lies, I live with him in his apt, not on lease 3yrs now destroying my health. Police came yesterday, I called a person that drives him to appointments that is a former Brinks co worker of his. She called police accusing me of abuse. I did not abuse him he assaulted me and has before APS has come to house checking on me in late October. What can I do to protect myself, police are forwarding report to DA but did not arrest me. My father stated I did not hurt him yesterday. But is claiming I just smacked him on 12/3015 at 4am when he rushed out in his Panties and started attacking for having the heat on. it was 30 degrees, turns on heat all day when he is fully clothed. Turns off when HE goes to sleep. gets violent if it comes on, prior to this we had a talk and he said it was ok, but just looses it over certain issues.
I can explain why sometimes victims don't leave.
From my own experience, fear actually plays a big role in why victims stay. I also noticed from my experience that when you live in an unfamiliar area, your abuser can keep you quarantined so that you can't leave. Quarantine and barricades keep victims from leaving. I'm in severe cases, the abuser will often deny or limit access to communication tools. Another thing that abusers tend to do is to limit or deny the victim's access to money and other basic necessities. Lack of money will keep the victim from getting a new place, and lack of food and water will make the victim too weak to even fight back. All of this is part of the control the abuser has over the victim because the victim's life is in the abuser's hands. If you are a victim and you lack the basic necessities for survival that will enable you to escape abuse, you will definitely be forced to be dependent upon your abuser for your very survival. This is exactly why many times victims won't leave, because sometimes they can't. It's one thing to be able to leave, another to be unable to leave due to lack of survival resources. Let's say you needed to escape from the house during the middle of winter, but your abuser has made sure that you don't have a coat or other basic necessities for going out into the cold. This will leave you housebound, especially if your abuser has made sure that you don't even have a car or access to one. Under these specific situations, you will find it much harder to escape an abusive situation. If you don't have a basic necessities for escaping abuse, you find yourself having to depend on your abuser for your own life
This familial setting is clearly not suiting you so you must seek help and leave. Then whatever he does he does and it won't get to you the way it clearly does now. If he is a pervert and has abused you report him to the police. I cannot understand why you choose to live with some like that, especially when you have degenerative disc disease.
To come on here and be rude to people, who are trying to make you see the reality, is not going to earn you further assistance. GA is absolutely right this scenario is not for you so you need to make plans to leave and I would suggest you put as much effort into that as you did in the response to GA and it might just get you somewhere
Out of here peeps and GA? I 100% support your comment
I do not respect my father never have, he is an abusive pervert, he does unspeakable things are you his pal? Wow cyber stalker....hmmmm yikes
Liberal comments from who? my father has caregivers that are wanna be cops, brinks co workers he is 87 and can't see but still drives. has caused numerous car accidents and killed people but LIES. So make sure you find help for him
This seems like a volatile situation and isn't going to change, so it's time to begin making plans to move out unless you want to be going through this trauma repeatedly.