Mom is in memory care. She does not have Alzheimer's but has vascular dementia caused by a stroke. She enjoys coming over to my house for a visit. However, I brought her to my house over Christmas. She was away from her residence for 3 nights. Mom was agitated at times, incontinent, confused. I think bringing her to my house was for me and not the best for her. I should have just picked her up Christmas Eve and again Christmas Day for a few hours. What are thoughts concerning this?
She felt more comfortable at home. Mother had wonderful sayings, and would say, WHEN YOU HAVE YOUR LEGS UNDER ANOTHER MANS TABLE, YOU WILL HAVE TO TAP TO THE BEAT OF HIS DRUM. Yes Mother loved Her own home, and had Her own routine. If Mam felt like having a nap for an hour or so She did so because home had NO boundaries.
Once you see how things work out, then you know. I suppose that with some people, it works out fine. So, at least you tried.
I hope your mom is back to her routine now and is feeling better. But don't beat yourself up. You had no way of knowing how a short stay would affect her and you wanted her with you for Christmas. You didn't do anything wrong and you learned from experience so you can plan differently next time.