I live alone with my parents who are 78 and 84 years old respectively. My father has no health issues he is extremely energetic and healthy, however my mother needs assistance for everything. My age is 33 and I have been taking care of them since I was 20. My problem is caregiver stress as my parents are difficult. My father has always been really strange he never tried to provide for us or cared about our emotional needs. All my life I saw him abusing our family. He still behaves the same way, only difference is that he has become more hyper and say more mean things. My mother was better than my father but believed in providing only basic needs to kids, now with aging she has become emotionally detached as well. When I started taking care of them, I decided to have a fresh start and do the best I could. They remain satisfied but would kept me on toes, my siblings also pressurize me not only to take care of parents but to fulfill their demands as well. All of this along with their insensitive responses gave me lot of emotional stress. As a result I got epileptic fit two weeks ago on major religious holiday when I had to take care of all arrangements. I have started medicine after consulting doctor but he said I need to sleep and my parents don't let what should I do. Also I think need to talk to someone at this point, like a need for compassion. Did anyone else go through it?
I hear you. There is a lot on your young shoulders. Its hard being the dutiful daughter caring for two elderly parents. And the lack of support from siblings only adds to the stress. All of this has clearly affected your health and I'm so sorry.
I too had to take care of my parents for an early age. They divorced when I was 20 and I had to help manage two households. Then my I had to help my mom during her cancer treatments. Then my dad after his stroke. My siblings tried to help but mostly it fell on me. I had a lot of anger and resentment. And since my father passed, I have a knot in my stomach.
Remember to take care of your health as well. It sounds like its time to explore other options. Maybe try to have a family meeting and see if assisted living or a nursing home is an option. Its not fair for anyone to expect you shoulder the entire burden and responsibility for both parents.