I am POA and executor for my father. My deceased sister had 2 children who are 1/2 beneficiaries of his estate. Since my mother has passed last summer, I am at his house (I live 25 miles away) 4 times a week. He has ALZ. My two nephews live 1000 miles away and do not call him or me. I bring him food, buy his clothes, etc. I have had to quit my job to be more available for him. I do not want to be compensated for my time, but the gas, food, clothes and other miscellaneous is putting a strain on my budget. I pay all his bills. Can I reimburse myself for the groceries, gas, etc. that I pay? I keep records on my expenses but I don't want hard feelings. When I ask Dad for a little help, he says he will get around to it,, but obviously he doesn't. I don't want to sound petty, but I could use a little payback on this. I don't want my nephews to think I am stealing from Dad - I just want to be reimbursed. Considering they never contact us, will it even be an issue down the line?
If your Dad thinks people are coming in when he's not home that means his Alzheimer's is advancing on schedule, it's only going to get worse, and eventually you will find yourself being his full-time caregiver 168 hours a week. You would be burnt out in no time, and with that stress comes your own serious illnesses.
And what if your Dad needs to go on Medicaid? Medicaid would put a lien on the house, thus that part of the estate would be gone.