My mother 81yr old mother has been taken advantage of by my youngest sister, basically lives off my mothers money spends it however she wants, has my mother in this loop of poor me so my mom will feel sorry for her and let her be in charge of her finances. Over the past 10 yrs she has helped her self to over 500k, my mother has sold everything she owns to keep money in my sisters hands so she will be happy. My mother has no control over her money she leaves it up to my sister to do as she please. Can we get social services or the police involved to investigate her accounts etc.. My sister would trf thousands of dollars from my moms account to her own personal acct and wont tell anyone why, she even had a joint acct with a guy she wasnt married to and we found debt trans in a state where he lived.. Yep long distance releationship if you could call it that? We just need it to stop and get the control of my mothers finances out of my sisters control need advice badly !! Thanks
That would be one of the first questions asked by the police when you report the financial abuse, i.e., why didn't someone report your sister when you first discovered the abuse rather than so late? It's a question you should be prepared to answer b/c the police could be suspicious.
I don't blame you, though, for being concerned. How is Mother going to support herself for the next ten or twenty years?
Call APS. It may or may not change things, but it is a reasonable place to start.