i have several health issues. i may need more surgery for adhesions with hysterectomy. my mom wants to accompany me who is 84. my brother has a job and does help us with transportation. how am i going to help my mom as i am recovering. who will do all the chores or go to supermarket. we have no friends or other relatives. how long will i be laid up. my mother needs care what shall i do or how should i do this. i am so worried about her not me......... thank you everyone
Also your brother may have to take up the slack for a few weeks.
At least this is not an emergency and you have a bit of time to plan. I wound up in the hospital via ER a few months after my husband developed dementia and needed 24/7 care. Oh my! That was chaotic to say the least. I'm sure with a little planning your situation will go smoothly.
Do take the necessary time to heal.
There are places and services that deliver meals for up to a week at a time. While I do have friends, after my surgery I was reluctant to depend on them, so I just stopped taking pain medication and started driving soon afterwards ( I didn't take my own advice). It was hard, and I was glad I had done a lot of advance preparation. I warned my mom that she would not get the level of care she was used to for a week or two, made sure she had books and DVDs, and I have to admit I fed her fast food and takeout for awhile. I had stockpiled homemade soup in the freezer, and we had a lot of soup meals. It worked out in the end. Good luck!