Member of the care team contradicted each other. Many areas of the care team were not represented. Nobody was in charge. They couldn't answer our questions. Nobody took any action items to research, investigate, and report on any of the issues. The tone of the meeting was CYA and blame the departments that did not attend. The family now has the burden of doing the research, follow up, and coordination of the various disciplines involved in the care and treatment. We are new to this. Is this typical and the level of professionalism we should expect? Can anybody provide a short tutorial of how these teams should function?
The adult day health program my husband was enrolled in also was required to hold care conferences every 90 days. They generally consisted of a social worker, a nurse, and one other staff member. All people involved knew my husband well and could speak about any issues he was having. They included him in the conversation and never spoke as if he wasn't in the room. These were typically short meetings and were run very professionally and efficiently while at the same time were very personable. They could have given lessons to the rehab center in how to run a care conference, and probably how to really function as an interdisciplinary team.
Bring on the chocolates and cookies; sadly, it tends to work.
The meeting began by everyone introducing themselves, then the caseworker stared at us and said "Have you decided what you want to do? She's not gonna get better so have you looked into where you want her to go?"
We were speechless. Needless to say, the relationship between us tanked from there. The caseworker wouldn't even return my calls. When they discharged her, they wouldn't even schedule an exit interview. I had to find the nurse, PT, OT on my own for instructions.
We, too, decided that my mother, and no one else from our family, would ever enter that facility again. Luckily, we found a good in-home care agency that has been tireless helping us with our mom.
So, I guess it's more common than I knew. Pathetic.
Staff is overworked & underpaid; turnover of staff at many places is horrendous. At some places you can be the senior person on staff within 3 months! It also helps to try to build good repoirre with the staff - if you can afford it, bring a box of donuts or cookies to the Nurses' Desk (dont forget the other shifts). Be sure to express appreciation to the ones who you find do a good job & go the extra steps in caring for mom. Also be sure to let the supervisors know who is going the extra mile, so to speak. -Been there, done that (have worked in NH's for way too many years).
I'll be interested to here is this is really "typical."
Did you discuss advance directives before they went into the NH? Does she have one on file? Any discussion on this?
Also, yes they did pass around a sheet for us to sign. This happened as discussions were in progress and it seemed to be merely a list of attendees. It was never explained that this was our affirmation of their care plan nor did we actually look at it that closely (out of respect to paying attention to the ongoing discussion). Shame on us for not realizing what was happening, but live and learn and now we know.
This should be scheduled in writing and at the meeting either someone from activity, dietary, nursing and social services or they send in their report. My experience is that only in rare situation is the NH medical director or the DON
(director of nursing - who is the god or goddess of rulers @ the NH) ever there.
You should be asked to sign off a sheet that either states the status or concerns the staff has for your mom and it is in the form that you can write in your concerns.
This is very important for you to do this and understand that you have to do this, otherwise you have no issues with their care plan.
If this was your first, then I'd send a fax to the attention of the DON (not a phone call, this need to be in writing and a fax is good as it establishes they got it), that you have some concerns regarding your mom's care and would like to schedule a meeting with her (the DON) and someone from her nursing staff at their earliest conveience. I've found the administrator is not the one to go to on this - the adminstrator is all about dealing with fed & state compliance stuff. Now if you do this, you really need to have a written page of specifics you either need addressed or have questions about. This is a business meeting and you want to stay on track and not get all emotional. By doing a list in advance and in writing, this helps keep you on track. You want to make sure the list get's placed within her medical chart @ the NH. So bring a couple of extra copies to the meeting and state on the bottom: "This page to be added to the medical chart of Anne Smith, resident of Happy Trails NH & Rehab, as per Jane Jones, DPOA and MPOA for Anne Smith, with the date.
If you have the gut feeling they won't do it, then you fax it over along with your thank you for meeting with me note to the DON.
I had some issues with the weekend wound care team at my mom's NH which were glossed over at the care plan meeting because the weekend workers were not there to provide input. I sent over a fax along with a couple of photos of how the weekend bandages were done and the status of her socks and presto, the DON sent me a letter within a week that the procedure would be monitored by the floor RN and a update wound care guideline was done for my mom. Just keep whatever as simple and specific as possible. Good luck.