My grandmother was recently placed in an assisted living facility in Maine. She has alzheimers but is in regular assisted living right now. I am very close with her but live 3 hours away and like to know what's going on with her. My aunt who has DPOA and lives locally, will not share any info with me. During my visit today, I asked the head nurse some questions such as can her window be opened more than 4" and can I take her off site for a car ride or to lunch? She gave me her card and asked me to call her to discuss once my grandmother wasn't around. I called and left a messsage. I then find out that the nurse called my Aunt and told her she didn't feel comfortable giving me info since I didn't have the POA. Huh? What rights do I have as a concerned relative if I have questions and am being kept in the dark by my family members? Any legal advice would be greatly appreciated! I am not sure what my aunt is capable at this point in keeping me from getting information out of spite. Very unfortunate situation! Thank you!
Is there anyone in your family who can talk some sense into your aunt so she'll give you permission to take your grandmother for a ride? You could try to fight this legally, but it likely would be expensive and I don't know that you could win.
It's just so sad that a family member would do this to you. I'm really sorry. Do try to find someone to intercede for you.
Carol
Are other family members being kept away from your grandmother?
Is she being well cared for? No suspicion of abuse or exploitation?
There are mediators who can help get family members together to discuss their concerns and come up with a plan so everyone can visit grandma. Are your parents in contact with your grandmother?