my aunt has poa of my other aunt her 87 year old alert sister. We were all living in the state of NV when my aunt took my 87 year old aunt to live in a nursing home in Ohio in her motor home. Then returned to NV five years ago. I thought all was well. Until now. At christmas dinner My 87 year old aunt said she wants to come back here to live. She is not happy in the place she is staying. She said although they won't hurt her body, they yell and her and force her to do what they want ther to do against her will. she is unhappy there and no family members visit her. she is alone. she said she wants me to keep her here set her in a nursing home what ever. My aunt her sister with poa and legal guardingship sd no she has to go back to Ohio she dosn't have time to fool with her here, I said I will visit aunt Mary. if she is here and look after her, my mom her other sister who is now 82 and living in her own home sd my aunt can stay in her 2nd bedroom no problem, My other Aunt there younger sister said no. My Aunt Mary has no children, no property and we love her. She is my favorite Aunt. I don't want her to step on the plane to go back to the place in Ohio What can I do. her plane to leave is by the 17th. My Aunt Mary asked me to to to my other Aunts house who now won't speak to us to pick her up by the 15th before the plane takes her back to Ohio and send for her belongings. She was pleading with me not to send her back to that place. I am truly worried for her she seemed so sweet but beaten down. It broke my heart, my mothers heart and my sisters heart. Please let me know, Am I able to go to my other Aunts home in a polite way. And take my other Aunt to my Moms home until we can get everything sorted out? My aunt is on medicaid and medicare. and social security. We could even put in a nursing home here in Nevada where we can visit her. What ever it takes. My Aunt deserves to be treated with love, kindness and understanding I can't stand the thought of sending her back and not helping her when she is pleading for me to intervine if anything happens to her I could never forgive my self for responding to her request,
Yes, if there are no visitors, nursing home staff can be short tempered and abusive. I walked in on it with my father, and I was there two or three times a day. Take it seriously.
Could you take your aunt to your county council on aging, and get some advice about how to proceed?
If you can take over your aunt's care, then go to Ohio first to investigate. Please do not assume that the POA aunt is mistreating her sister. As NancyH says, talk to the POA aunt as if she is a good person trying to do a good job. Keep on her good side until you have proof she isn't.
This will be a very big project to take on, and your aunt may not end up any happier. You are a good loving person to want to help, but look before you leap.