For the past few days I have been feeling spacey. I don't feel like I'm really in the world. I'm not really connecting with people anymore when we talk. Today I stopped at a stop sign, then spaced out for a moment before remembering to go. I'm starting to think I'm going a bit nutty.
I can't think straight when I'm with my mother, following her around stores. I can't think straight when she's in the car with me, talking and asking questions. Sometimes when I'm driving her somewhere I end up turning down the wrong road, and have to turn around and go back and she grunts.
I've been having trouble remembering what day of the week it is. It blurs together. Is it Tuesday? Wednesday? Do I have to take her somewhere today? I have to keep checking the calendar.
I agree about staying hydrated.
Thanks for that important information about celery being a diuretic!
The advice given to me was drink 16 oz., and I modified that to 8 oz.
Will revise my celery juicing accordingly.
The old adage 'Moderation in everything' holds true, once again, and always consider the original source before passing on info to others.
I need a legal disclaimer written for all my posts now!
Moe, good idea to read books with winter scenes! You share some good ideas too. Photos of winter scenes are helpful during summer, and photos of summer scenes helpful in winter.
I also find math problems help keep me oriented, even though I've forgotten so much.
I was thinking that one of the strange feelings about the spaceyness is the sense that I've found myself having slipped into a situation unlike any other, a situation in which I've never found myself, for which I was never educated, prepared, or planned for. Many events are alien to me. I'm still struggling to find adequate solutions as well as to successfully adapt to ongoing changes.
It's somewhat like having interviewed for a job, accepted it, and found it's nothing for which I was prepared.
Sometimes it reminds me of the movie The Martian - lost and abandoned in an alien environment, being forced to make a lot of uncomfortable compromises to survive. Except that I'm still here on earth.
I define your 'spacey' as if you're walking in a circle in a pool of water for some time & can't remember how many times you've done the circuit - I have to deal with 2 parents in different places [can't have them in same place because they have same first & last names so records will possibly {& have done already} got missed up] so that nearly doubles my work
I play several games which have 'concentration' elements as well as problem solving to try to keep the 'little grey cells working' to quote Agatha Christie - it seems small but 10 - 15 minutes a day is like taking a hone to a knife to keep my brain working at top speed - I look forward to it every day & miss the few days that I have to skip - this is my time to rejuvenate myself & I believe this is good for my dealing in regards to my parents' safeguards -
DON'T NEGLECT YOURSELF - those few minutes of respite can sharpen you to deal with others on your parents behave - there is a balance that everyone needs to make & each person is different - keep strong
That will jumpstart any diet. I forgot how good I was starting to feel.
Hoping that soon everyone can start to feel better.
I was thinking of your name micalost and tagged on 30 lbs to the end of it. It sounds easier to lose 5 lbs. I think that should be the goal -- sounds a lot more reachable. :)
I totally agree about not abondoning your parents. My husband and I took care of his dad n step mom when dad had bladder cancer n step mom had her 5 th heart attack. He has three. One was on tour of duty for two years. One couldn't stop working and the one who didn't work or do anything just recently told her brother, ' she wasn't in the right place'. We never held it against anyone. You have to live with your decisions. My mom was an abusive parent but that never stopped me from taking care of her and I'm so grateful everyday that I did because while the disease took away her memories she became the sweetest person. The mom I always wanted. I know that was a gift God. 💜
As far as my kids, there are lots of excuses because they all know I need a break and dad would love to see them. I have for years asked to have a family Sunday dinner once or twice a month n well that doesn't work for anyone. So I've just pretty much given up. My son who does visits when he's not working or taking care of their newborn or 3 yr old will come over.
No I don't understand why the rest of the kids don't help or visit but something that they will have to live with. Hope everyone has a blessed day.
But during those years I suffered from dissociation and spacing out - now to figure out how to lose the thirty pounds i put on.
I feel badly for you that your children don't want to help. But perhaps they really don't understand your situation. Have a family meeting st the next family get-together.
So I'm glad I have this site to read. There are things we need to do. Aka a will etc. He will need a motorized wheelchair in the nearby soon. And a vehicle that can transport him which I don't know how we will pay for that. Probably sell both old cars and have to find one I can drive. I'm very short n petrified of driving large vehicles. We live comfortably but don't know how long. We don't own our home yet. Just had the bathrooms redone to make it easier to bathe him. Just so much. Thank You 😄 for listening.
If she had met the workers, she would have known how nice they were. I took them a couple of cokes throughout the afternnon and they were so appreciative of them. That felt good. It was a hot day, so they needed something cool.
Anyway... it turns out she wanted to go to the doctor because he butt had a sore place. I looked and didn't see anything. I gave her some Aquaphor to put on the sore place. I have a feeling she wanted to go to the doctor to put a monkey wrench into the tree cutting schedule. It's the only thing I can figure.
I have the hardest time figuring how someone is sick all day every day for 10 years and still be fit enough to perhaps live another 10. It seems like a total waste of resources to die mentally and spiritually twenty years before the actual date.
Fear. Obligation. Guilt.
In agreement with drinking more water!
Can you put some lemon in it?
For me, I am back on my Children's Claritin, I like the grape flavor :) and that seems to help me.
Zinc
7-up
take a baby aspirin and call the dr. in the morning.
Breathe deeply
Breathe deeply 3x to get oxygen to your brain
Shower before bed
Hoping you already went to sleep.
"Great, I have just been declared sane by someone who calls themselves, " ass and ache!"
So, if you get a chuckle from me or anyone else declaring you sane, go ahead and have a little laugh at our expense! But, if Assandache says it, you can believe it!
Looked up this article here, on this forum:
EMOTIONAL WELLBEING
10 Signs of Caregiver Stress
It does seem like flu season has started. Take care of yourself!
Here, have some bunny hugs! ~ ~ ~ ~ * hug hop hug hop hug hop!
Sorry I ever smoked. I wish that no young person would ever pick up the habit again. If only they could see the future and the damage it does.
Lots of water!
If by spacey you're also including a situation when your thoughts come and go faster than fireflies, I think that's normal when we're preoccupied or stressed out. A friend used to mention when she was in law school that sometimes she felt as if she was meeting herself coming and going.
Sometimes I think of thoughts colliding and competing for my brain space as a crowded skating rink with people skating every which way and bumping into each other. Or worse yet, one of those bump car places where people drive miniature cars and try to avoid bumping into each other. Or sometimes like a football field with some thoughts getting through and others getting trampled or stomped by competing thoughts.
FF, when it's unbearably hot, I check the NatGeo or Smithsonian channel for weather programs of Greenland, the Arctic or Antarctica. Helps cool me down.
I also found I couldn't remember so many different things, it started to scare me. Once I got to work and settled in then that fear went away. I kept telling myself it is my fall seasonal allergies... and let's add that full moon to the mix. No wonder one of my cats was acting like a 2 year old instead of 15.... he was attacking every leaf on the desk.
Plus I am upset with Mother Nature for all this hot weather.... like enough of this hot flash outdoors. Bring in a light dusting of snow, please. I am ready !!