Mom has had a stroke. Scared of being put in home. Lives alone and runs people off who care. She dispises me and more so today. Accuses me of harrassing when we knocked on door to check on her. Her brother along with others have fallen prey to her lies. Im the only one who cares and yet the one she hates most. What to do. Any advice. She also just recently lost her elder son, my brother.
Don't take this the wrong way, but sometimes the love in our hearts makes us suckers for punishment.
Send her a big, colorful card with a few handwritten lines saying how much you still care. Don't forget to include your address and phone #s for when she decides to reach out.
For now, back off. Give the crabby hermit her space and enough time to realize that alienating people isn't the way to go.