My mom lives with my husband and I. She is 85, has CHF with symptoms. She is wonderful, always pushing herself to help out. and appreciative of my care for her. She cannot live alone, and this is a very painful time for us. My husband, on the other hand, is type II diabetic, has high blood pressure, lots of edema in his legs, and heading directly into serious complications - I see kidney failure a real possibility, as well as chf. I am so angry with him. He has no will power,eats and drinks whatever he wants, and seems to think all he has to do is take his meds. and he will be fine.
Taking care of mom, who always took good care of her health is one thing, but I don't know if I can face a future of taking care of my husband, who does nothing to help himself. I am so sad.