I have some family issues in recent months and I'm literally all alone. There is only one person I could call on but they are enduring terrible circumstances related to health and I don't want to bring up my issues with them.
I do have another old friend. We haven't spoken in several years. What happened was I focused on my family and just lost touch. This friend though had made some disparaging and frankly hurtful comments about my family when we last spoke so they were not that missed. But in many respects they are a stand up, responsible person who is very smart, has a successful career and has helped a number of people when they were down. On the other hand some of those people were chronic troublemakers and major alcohol abusers and my guess they may still have those associations which I abhor.
I think though that speaking with someone may get me through this rough time in my life. Do you think I should call them? Otherwise I could try to make new friends but my goodness it's not as easy when I was younger!
Do not seek a friend (new or old) because you are in trouble or needy.
The "friend" you need is a therapist to talk to.
You are back to writing multiple posts here on the forum, all ongoing at the same time. All having little or nothing to do with caregiving, but focusing more on your state of mind which appears to be in a negative place right now. Please take BarbBrooklyn & JoAnn's good advice and seek out the guidance of a recommended, trained therapist to help you with the multitude of issues you face. When you are facing a 'rough time in life', as you say you are, the best thing to do is to seek out professional advice rather than internet advice from random strangers, or advice from former acquaintances with alcohol problems. That's MY 2 cents on the matter. What you don't need right now is more problems to add to your pile.
Wishing you the best of luck navigating all that you have on your plate currently.
I think you need a therapist. There are clinics that charge by income. I think you need to learn how to assert yourself and be made to feel guilty because you did. Not just because of your situation now but your future.
This person may have good qualities, but they also trash-talked your family. No need to churn up that drama.
Trying to make old friends or new is not the way to get support on family issues.
See the help of a therapist who is capable and trained.
Best to you.
And might I also suggest looking for a local support group either online or in person as who better to share with than folks that are going through the same or similar things as you. My local caregiver support group saved my life when I was at my wits end caring for my husband.
I wish you the very best.