Mr. B announced today he is selling his house and moving to Dallas,Texas. I believe he thinks Dallas is like in the old Westerns he watches. I tried to reason with him, but gave up. I now have notified 2 of his sons about it. Any ideas? I am his caregiver and one of his sons is my fiancee.
You were a CNA but have never worked with dementia before?
You live with your fiancee's father, where does he live?
Just trying to clarify information provided.
This man has Dementia. (I know with my Mom her reality was TV, dreams and daily reality all in one. She couldn't tell the difference). Because he has Dementia his son now needs to make decisions for him and one is not allowing him to move. If it comes to that, he can place him in an AL or LTC. In the state of NJ I had no problem using my POAs.
This isca fine line. The father is not capable of making informed decisions. A POA can buy and sell property. As such, I think he has the authority to stop a sale. The Father is not competent to sign any legal papers. A POA is responsible for his fathers finances. His responsibility is to do right by Dad.
You said his son WAS POA. Maybe you are mistaken about t h e role of POA, it is not power over someone, but instead the financial power to act in his best interests and desires. Imo.
If you are living with Mr. B (your future Fil), perhaps there is a conflict of interest in not wanting to move? Is a patient with "early dementia" considered "incompetent?" I doubt it.
So what happened with the WAS POA part?
My response is as 100% patient advocate, not knowing you. It is not meant to accuse anyone of wrong doing, just asking questions to get more information.
If I were to answer 100% on your behalf only, my answer would have been different, given more information. I understand your dilemma, and your loving interest in this client. It appears you are powerless without authority to act, and I would not want to see another caregiver get caught up and stuck.
The caregiving should be separate from your pending marriage relationship, imo.
Because one of his sons has POA, Mr. B cannot finance a trip on his own to Texas. However, because Mr B seems determined to go, he should be supervised to make certain he doesn’t take off on his own.