We have been taking care of grandma for the past six years. She has moderate/severe Alzheimer's, vascular dementia, multiple strokes, and diabetes. Her most recent stroke has left her entirely paralyzed on her left side and she is unable to hold her head or body upright. She has been in adult diapers for about a year, and was able to transfer to the toilet when needed about 50% of the time. Our problem is she still wants to transfer to the toilet, but even when there are two of us available, she cannot sit on the toilet, even when propped up. Does anyone have any good or creative ideas to convince grandma to use the diaper?
My mom's way of dealing with this was just to cross her fingers during the day and, at night, didn't even bother with the diapers. Since grandma would throw them around, mom just put a rubber sheet or something like that on the bed and then stripped the bed clothes every day.
But my mom put the diapers on grandma, every day, regardless. So, you might just try it and see what happens. Whomever helps her dress will need to just include those. If she "takes" to them, then spend the extra money for the ultra-absorbent so that you have to go through the changing less often, which she's probably not going to like.