Mom is in a memory care facility with various activities 3 times a day and acording to the staff, she enjoys herself. But she forget now ten minutes after, so when I visit her, she says she is bored. Now she calls me to say that I have let her down, tht I don't come to see her anymore ( false evidently! I even give her balloon or any other trinket for her to remember I was there). So even if I know she forgot as soon as she hang up the phone and goes to her activities, how can I cope with the sadness and the guilt?
When Mom calls, just go along with what she says, it is much easier to do that. Say you were very busy at home and you will visit her tomorrow, even though you were already there today.... of course you know she will forget that quickly.
As for the sadness, yes it is tough watching our parents age, be it mobility issues and/or memory issues. My parents were in their 90's, so I figured they had a long wonderful life, and I was trying to make their final years the best that was available.