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I am scarred and alone. Also I have been taking care of him for 2 years. Lost my job and I feel I am slipping away. I never let him see me cry or be bothered. I'm 50 and I have lost my life. That sounds selfish I don't know how else to explain it
Others on this thread have given you good advice as to handling the stress of being a care giver under the circumstances you describe.
But since you began your question by describing your father's Medicare insurance status, I am assuming you had a different question (or that you had two questions). If you're father is "broke" and low income, he can probably get his Medicare Part B premium paid for or partially paid for by your state's Medicaid program. Depending on what kind of Humana supplement he has, he might be able to get part or all of its premium paid for by Social Security Extra Help (but Extra Help is income and asset dependent so even if he has not assets left, his income might disqualify him). Many states also have generous State Pharmaceutical Assistance Programs that could assist. See someone at the nearest Senior Center; particularly ask for someone who works on the SHIP program (that's the national name; it is often called SHINE or HICAP or something else).
My Father (87) has moderate vascular dementia + BTK amputation (no prosthesis) He resides in a NH, has run out of money and so have I. I drove down across the country with my two cats to assist him with bills, house, etc. Meanwhile, a plan I had for funding my own home, bills, fell through, and I'm in a deep black financial hole, with no clue how to get out.......I'm 61, and will have to search for a job in a strange city and new job market. I'm being treated for severe clinical depression/anxiety, and insomnia. I wish my life would end, as I'm in alot of pain/fear/and clueless about everything. Cannot seem to move forward.
i understand that you stick your neck in a noose and the system cares only about the well being of the elder . i hope that changes but until it does we still have to follow our heart even tho the risk is mind boggling .
Captain is right. You pick up and you move yourself forward. Dad has to progress on his own, if he goes from rehab to long term care, that frees you to look for a job.
my aunt is currently in nh and shes being denied phys rehab and much more because humana is her secondary . according to nh , it doesnt get any crappier than humana . youll get your own life back , you just cant see it from your current ( disad ) vantage point . my mom has been gone for 14 months . i languished at her house for 6 years while my house sat empty and vulnerable to crackhead breakins . i got to the point of 24 - 7 care too so i lost a fortune in wages near the end but my life is moving ahead now by leaps . im content with my decision to see mom thru to her last day on earth . good priorities have good returns ..
By proceeding, I agree that I understand the following disclosures:
I. How We Work in Washington.
Based on your preferences, we provide you with information about one or more of our contracted senior living providers ("Participating Communities") and provide your Senior Living Care Information to Participating Communities. The Participating Communities may contact you directly regarding their services.
APFM does not endorse or recommend any provider. It is your sole responsibility to select the appropriate care for yourself or your loved one. We work with both you and the Participating Communities in your search. We do not permit our Advisors to have an ownership interest in Participating Communities.
II. How We Are Paid.
We do not charge you any fee – we are paid by the Participating Communities. Some Participating Communities pay us a percentage of the first month's standard rate for the rent and care services you select. We invoice these fees after the senior moves in.
III. When We Tour.
APFM tours certain Participating Communities in Washington (typically more in metropolitan areas than in rural areas.) During the 12 month period prior to December 31, 2017, we toured 86.2% of Participating Communities with capacity for 20 or more residents.
IV. No Obligation or Commitment.
You have no obligation to use or to continue to use our services. Because you pay no fee to us, you will never need to ask for a refund.
V. Complaints.
Please contact our Family Feedback Line at (866) 584-7340 or ConsumerFeedback@aplaceformom.com to report any complaint. Consumers have many avenues to address a dispute with any referral service company, including the right to file a complaint with the Attorney General's office at: Consumer Protection Division, 800 5th Avenue, Ste. 2000, Seattle, 98104 or 800-551-4636.
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APFM does not (and may not) require or even ask consumers seeking senior housing or care services in Washington State to sign waivers of liability for losses of personal property or injury or to sign waivers of any rights established under law.
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You consent to APFM's reaching out to you using a phone system than can auto-dial numbers (we miss rotary phones, too!), but this consent is not required to use our service.
But since you began your question by describing your father's Medicare insurance status, I am assuming you had a different question (or that you had two questions). If you're father is "broke" and low income, he can probably get his Medicare Part B premium paid for or partially paid for by your state's Medicaid program. Depending on what kind of Humana supplement he has, he might be able to get part or all of its premium paid for by Social Security Extra Help (but Extra Help is income and asset dependent so even if he has not assets left, his income might disqualify him). Many states also have generous State Pharmaceutical Assistance Programs that could assist. See someone at the nearest Senior Center; particularly ask for someone who works on the SHIP program (that's the national name; it is often called SHINE or HICAP or something else).
youll get your own life back , you just cant see it from your current ( disad ) vantage point . my mom has been gone for 14 months . i languished at her house for 6 years while my house sat empty and vulnerable to crackhead breakins . i got to the point of 24 - 7 care too so i lost a fortune in wages near the end but my life is moving ahead now by leaps . im content with my decision to see mom thru to her last day on earth . good priorities have good returns ..