Has anybody had this dilemma? My Dad will not get hearing aides, cannot hear tv unless the volume is at 21! Gets upset with me - and my husband is home but stays in back room. They really don't get along & I'm in the middle!! Now Dad is saying he's hearing this one song playing & he wants me to turn it off. It plays 24-7 in his head. & I cannot deal with his constant asking me to turn it off . I do not know how to handle this. He has no hobbies, I've tried to occupy him with different things, had him put ear plugs in nothing works. Even put country music on for him. He doesn't want to leave the house! I really don't know what to do. I feel myself getting resentful & beginning to have hearing problems too. HELP ME SOMEONE PLEASE!!
I do watch TV with the captioning on. Maybe he could do that. Maybe you could buy or borrow a personal DVD player and let him watch movies with the headphones on. If you have a portable computer (laptop), maybe he could watch internet TV (establishing a kid block on there would be helpful so he's not ordering stuff off the internet) on there with the headphones on. I thinking that a ipod, personal CD player or tape player would be good for music, too.
As for him hearing music in his head, when there is no music going on the room...I am going to try to not sound insensitive here, If I am, I am sorry....Maybe you should think about getting him examined...Sounds like something is going on in his head or it could be a hearing loss issue. For now, you may want to try a white noise machine to get his mind off that song. (Fan, radios that play soothing nature sounds, etc).
He is in AL, perhaps you might consider that for your father before your husband
decides to hit the road, this is not fair to him...or you.
You may have to place your father in a Memory Care community if things get too difficult to manage at home. The vast majority of us cannot handle dementia on our own.........it takes an entire team of people working 24/7 to handle all the various issues that are associated with the disease. Since your husband doesn't get along with your father, and he's now having even MORE issues, you may want to look into placement for him before things get even worse, as often happens with dementia which is a disease of progression.
Best of luck!
Also, he could have wax buildup.