Dad had a massive heart attack 12/7/18 and we are arguing about power of attorney.
Mom wants it, and my sister wants it too.
He we’ll be home this Monday. We're having meeting with doctors/ social worker on Monday.
He lives with us, not my sister. Mom and dad live with me. Who can I call to trump my sister? My mom is his wife.
Help me with number.
As said, Dad assigns the POA which I think would be his wife. In my opinion, you should be second since you probably be the one responsible for their care not sister. Sister maybe under the wrong impression of a POA. It only comes into effect if Dad can no longer make decisions. She has no control till then. Since he is married her being POA does not make sense.
Social Workers cannot and should not get involved with family drama. Social Workers are there to help set up resources needed for Dad. A POA is a personal and legal thing. You should go to a lawyer to have papers drawn up, both financial and medical. They have to be witnessed and notarized. I would do this no other way.
Does sister want them to come live with her? If there is no POA generally speaking, the spouse makes the decisions if the patient can’t. If your dad isn’t able to make a decision right now, he won’t be able to appoint a POA.