He will need a good doctor and his only income is his benefits. Where do I go for his benefits and such? This is my first time ever going through this. I just don't want him to be alone without me anymore and cannot see him going into facility at this time for care. He is unable to live alone anymore without care
To get answers to some of your questions, the following website will give you your local Council on Aging. https://www.agingcare.com/local/Area-Agency-on-Aging
They also have tons of information on how to get seniors around (cheap/free transportation for seniors), other programs that could be important, and all sorts of things. I realize this clinic that I got my mom into might have more services than some others, but I've gotten lots of information, there.
You'll also probably want to go to the social security office to change his social security and Medicare, the DMV to at least get a state ID, even if he's no longer going to drive.
If he wants a new dentist, there are sometimes lower-rate places for seniors. I found that the geriatric center had lists of suggested dental clinics, along with the other resources, although have not had a chance to take my mom to one of them to see how they are.
Sometimes, you have to specifically ask. My mom got into a program for people with memory loss where I was able to get her a deep discount because of her lower income. That's just an example, but if I'd shied-away because of the cost and not spoken with them, wouldn't have known. Sometimes, you have to check into things that look good but pricey and just see if they even have suggestions for other programs that would be in your price range, too. Most people are really helpful regarding these issues, I'm finding.
Line up help, now. And have them start the first day, because your dad may become dependent on you and not allow anyone else in the house. So, that means starting the bath lady, the first morning.
Good luck. I hope that your health is great, because you are taking on a task.
When was the last time you had a conversation or you have been with your Dad? If you see him regularly, then you will not have a hard time adjusting. But if you have been missing out of the things that happened with him, you are in need of catching up. Know the basics. The current diet that he has, the sport or activity he usually do. You need to know his daily habits and regimens. Preparing for basic stuff like where he is going to sleep, the type of bed he needs, and all other aspects is very important.
Planning and preparation will help you adjust easily with the new environment and situation that you are going to face when Dad has finally arrives. You may also need to brief the other people in the household about the new addition to your family, the things that you need to do to adjust to him and how things are going to be in the house once he arrives. Being emotionally prepared is also very important because the adjusting period could really be sometimes a whirl wind for most people.