I'm with my dad every day until I set him up for dinner and go home. He's okay for the most part and I monitor by an ADT security system with cameras and any doors that open to the exterior I get a text message and a video clip (to see if he exited) or I can watch live any time I wish. My question is this - I don't have backup; and as of today my doctor is threatening to hospitalize me for depression and exhaustion. What will happen to my dad if he's left alone?
I agree with what they've said here, I'd go and get some help, ASAP because you might be over exhausting yourself. I know where you're coming from though, because my mom is all I have to help her out, even though I have an older brother who lives in Chicago who could help more (and the same thing for my 34 year old nephew who refuses to give me some breathing space by taking a turn or two with the visits), it's usually up to one "main individual" to do ALL of the work, while the others just sit on the sidelines and forget about what my mom did for them. But that's life I guess (it's made me really think about how they'd treat me should I ever get sick, and from what I see, I'd be on my own as well).
I ask God/Jesus "daily" to help keep me well for my mom, because she gets NO visitors at the rehab but me. Try to find someone to help you and get started "right away", once you get things together for yourself (I believe God might be telling you this is 'your way' of getting some much needed 'rest' for yourself right now, and that's what's important), then you could perhaps pick up (with a better perspective) from where you started. Will pray for you and your dad.
If there is no one that can take over your duties you must start the process of finding him a pn assisted living place or NH if needed. It stinks but I cannot think if what else to do. Start the process now. I would imagine that his doctors could help you find the right people to talk with. Or talk with an elder attorney. I hope someone with better knowledge about how to actually start this process will help you.
Good luck and take care of yourself!!